<p>My IT program manager job is being ‘absorbed by others’ and some will move offshore - a few hours later my daughter was accepted to her number one choice.
So sad.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry about your job…do you have any thoughts on places you can start looking for work? Will you have some unemployment benefits.</p>
<p>Your daughter got accepted! Is your layoff going to affect if she can attend this school? Don’t give up until you try any/all avenues!!!</p>
<p>I’m sure you feel crummy today- tomorrow may bring some new light.</p>
<p>shelly I am so sorry! Will they let you use office as if you are still employed to look for another job? a number of companies are doing this to help their employers position themselves for new employment?</p>
<p>I’m so sorry that this happened to you. It seems so unfair, especially since it hit your daughter’s plans.</p>
<p>Give her a few days to let the news settle in, and then help her to find a Plan B. Contact first choice, see if they will look at fin. aid again in light of new circumstances.
Look at her other choices, see what’s most affordable.
Look into colleges she might not have thought of (sounds much better than “might not have considered”) that would be more affordable and see if she can still get in. </p>
<p>We’ll all keep our fingers crossed that you find a new position soon.</p>
<p>Shelley14, I was laid off after my job was absorbed into another on my 18th anniversary. I just kept putting one foot in front of the other by doing more networking and professional development. After six months (and at the age of 57) I just got a new position at a significant pay raise. I just kept optimistic, active, and engaged and I am a living example that it can be done.</p>
<p>Hey, look at the bright side - she can get good financial package now :)</p>
<p>I am sorry about your job situation, but heck, that is life in the dear USA… You will be OK, trust you instinct…</p>
<p>I’m so sorry. It’s such an awful thing to go through. </p>
<p>My husband lost his job last year right after the acceptances came out. Be sure to contact the school’s financial aid office and ask them how to proceed. I know there was an appeal procedure but I’m sure the process differs from school to school.</p>
<p>That really stinks. I am sorry to hear that you have lost your job. I think the economy will turn soon as we should be in the last phase of the recession. Employment usually lags behind the economy, but I hope it does not lag too much this time.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry. You should contact the financial aid office asap. I wish you the best of luck in finding a new job quickly.</p>
<p>I am sorry that this happened to you. Get a really good resume together - sell yourself.</p>
<p>I wish that I could agree that we are in the last stage of a recession. Last year, there was quite a debate in the Parent Cafe over whether or not we were headed toward a recession. Well … here we are. I truly believe our economy grew too much, too quickly. I don’t think that the adjustment we need to make is close to being over yet. My friends are being laid off right & left - and our main industry is still shedding jobs. There is a shift ahead, and it is going to take some time.</p>
<p>That doesn’t mean our OP won’t get a job … it’s more like our kids might be living in our basements instead of getting their first real job once they graduate.</p>
<p>shelley, I’m so sorry to hear this! Big cyberhugs! Exactly a year ago, my company folded, and I lost my job. D had three fat envelopes on the table, and because of our family’s previos year income she did not qualified for fin. aid. I networked like a madwoman, and four months after the layoff I was employed full time (and with benefits!!!) in a position that was supposed to be a temporary part-time gig. My job responsibilities are a bit different from what I’ve been doing for 20+ years, but I love it and I’m taking a course to even further advance my knowledge in the new field.</p>
<p>The media loves to show stories of unemployed people walking up and down NY streets with their resumes stapled to their foreheads. The reality is that the jobs are out there, but you have to look hard to find them and think outside the box. Network, network, network. When you get tired and need a place to vent, come here - we are here to listen and give you cyberhugs.</p>
<p>Can’t offer any real advice but wanted to send you cyber {{{{{hugs}}}} and wish you the best of luck.</p>
<p>Sorry top hear that shelly.</p>
<p>Good thing you didn’t raise your daughter with a sense of entitlement and she knows that times are tough and she is going to have to work hard to go to school, and mom will try her best to help. </p>
<p>I wish you all the best. I paid for school all on my own and compared to those who didn’t, I can say I appreciated school a lot more.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry. Everyone says not to confuse your job with your identiy but I know I do. </p>
<p>I am so proud of my law firm for doing everything in the world to cut costs except lay offs. Sure, there have been some weak performers who might have been given more time to improve in a better economy, but no lay offs of good folks. I’ve taken a bit of a pay cut, soft drinks are no longer free, the retreat has been postponed, but we can all sleep at night.</p>
<p>I know that people who are lucky love to think that they deserved it, but I know a number of people in their fifties who over the past several years have done all of the networking and thinking outside the box in the world and STILL have not been able to find employment that is stable, enough to pay the basic bills, or provides health insurance. Count your lucky stars, those for whom it has worked out, but don’t make statements deriding those who have not been as fortunate. (Who are just as smart, well-educated, imaginative, and hard-working as YOU are–and possibly more so.)</p>
<p>Sorry to hear, we all might join you soon. Living in a most economically depressed region of the country (consider that a lot of us travel to Detroit for work, since even Detroit is better than us), I have been out of work 8 times. This is my job #9 and I just pray every day that I will have it tomorrow. So, I know exactly how you feel. Considering what I have said above, my D did not even apply to any elite / expansive / prestigious places that would not give her close to full tuition. It was not worth it. D graduated #1 in her HS class and is very happy at her Honors program at state school where she received more than full tuition (some $$ cover R&B) in Merit Scholarships. By the way, I am also in IT. So, hang in there and talk seriously to your D. Ours is very appreciative of the fact that we support her, not matter the level. College success is more up to a kid than the place, anyway.</p>
<p>shelley14 - I was laid off Dec 1st…my personal consolation was that on that day it was reported that 500,000 others also lost their jobs.</p>
<p>If you haven’t already, IMMEDIATELY get online & file for unemployment. There’s a one week (unpaid) wait period so don’t put that off. I did it from my office 5 minutes after being given my walking papers. </p>
<p>We’re all here and it helps to know that.</p>
<p>I second "just"aMom’s advice- it took almost a full month for me to receive my first unemployment deposit. With so many folks out of work some states are becoming overwhelmed with the process. I know how brutal it is to get this news at the same time acceptances are coming in - my D had hoped to attend UMich (OOS for us) but now we just can’t see our way to doing it financially with me being out of work and no immediate prospects on the horizon. Hang in there! I think we need a forum for job search/networking/interviewing tips.</p>
<p>As this door closes, I will keep my fingers crossed that a new and better door opens for you.</p>
<p>Shelley, I just want to add my thoughts of good will for you and your daughter. This economy is wrecking so many peoples lives, that I know personally…I know it must be so scary and upsetting for you, just at a time where you always envisioned all the joy and excitement of sending your d off to school. It hurts as a parent and a person. I do hope you aren’t blaming yourself for things beyond your control…but at least know that there are people out here that know you’ve done everything you were supposed to do, and what has happened isn’t because you caused it. Your story breaks my heart. I feel so grateful that my kids are graduating in May, and we’re done with tuition. I do know that even if we had originally planned to pay their way thru grad school…that would be off the table for us now. Its just hard, for so many good hard working honest people. I wish someone could give some real solid answers so we all could know how to navigate this new world we are living in:(</p>
<p>I am sending you a huge cyber hug too. Stay strong, and I’m trying to believe that good intentions will bring good things…eventually.</p>