<p>OldFort, in no way did I say that I was a "better person"because I like camping and prefer comfortable shoes. I was simply musing about people’s different tastes–prompted partly by the poster who complained that her date involved hiking and a port-a-potty and said the guy was therefore “cheap.” </p>
<p>I have dear friends whose idea of hell is camping. That doesn’t make them inferior people. Personallly I like both luxury hotels AND camping. Big whoop. Would I spend my scarce funds on a luxury hotel? No. I’d stay in a hostel and buy symphony tickets, because <em>I</em> cannot afford to do both. That doesn’t give me moral superiority.</p>
<p>I fully agree that the important thing is that the guy was inconsiderate. I used the word “churlish” in fact.</p>
<p>Consolation, I like the outdoors, my husband and I actually like camping at places that actually have restrooms when we were dating. I guess I have an aversion to port-a-potty, but I think I’m not the only one. All my kids prefer to go to restroom vs port-a-potty when we go surfing at a state beach.</p>
<p>Regarding setting up, I don’t like the idea and I don’t think they like the idea. But if my kids take too long and getting picky, I will ship them to Colorado where there is a high concentration of men rather then stay in LA. :D</p>
<p>I have to keep checking the title of this thread, ha. I have so many tales of my kids’ reactions to porta-potties and roadside stops of all sorts. For camping, we finally bought our own little nifty unit. Maybe that’s TMI. And they outgrew the concerns. Maybe we need a camping thread. </p>
<p>Tinder is working for D1. One of her dates is someone I vaguely know at the U. I told her not to tell him I was related. Not yet.</p>
<p>Nice guys.<br>
All the commentary is noting the significant numbers and fwiw, saying get used to it. Somehow my neighbor kid met her last two boyfriends online- I got to know one over a couple of years and he was a great kid. “Someone’s son,” so to say. One of my former bosses- no make that two- in that particular context (a project) they were, I think, about 30. Turned out I also knew X’s gf through my other work- great gal, grad student. So you never know.</p>
<p>You definitely are not the only one! Niqui said she prefers the bushes. I think they are often gross because they are heavily used. My favorite camping place in Maine is “semi-wilderness,” which in practice means that three widely-spaced campsites share an outhouse, and water is available at the office to take to your campsite. You have to walk in about 1/4 mile from the parking spot for your site. There were no showers anywhere. The outhouses were never yucky, but the clientele was limited. TMI? Maybe we do need a camping thread.</p>
<p>Returning to the late bloomer subject, S has some summer romances at CTY, but didn’t date in HS and never went to a prom. He went to JH dances, but not HS dances. He and a friend told us parents that they didn’t like the fact that some kids were drunk. I think that a number of kids, especially boys, in our HS didn’t date because the whole thing was just too intimate, at 200 per class and many of the same kids since 1st grade. I didn’t date in HS or go to the prom either–which was true of many of us those days–but I admit I rather wanted S to have a nice social life and be more at ease with the whole dating scene than I was. As it turns out, I think he is. In his own way. </p>
<p>No, lookingforward, my post wasn’t in a mean way or anything. Tinder is just…funny…at times. ;)</p>
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Oh, yes!! :))</p>
<p>If I have the choice, Nature has got me. Most of the beaches I go to have one bathroom every mile or two and they are in poor condition. I don’t go to them. I a) hold it b) pee in the ocean or c) crawl up some sand dune and find a bush. I just can’t stomach them. </p>
<p>Curious if any of your younguns have had luck meeting people online. Mine have gotten a lot of correspondence from people who don’t say much beyond " 'Sup?". Had a few live meetings each, but no chemistry. I’ve heard more success stories from the middle-aged.</p>
<p>That’s what Tinder is. I think it’s just I-phone users. I also know kids who’ve used OK Cupid. D1 has now had maybe two dates with each of her 3 new friends. She likes all three, may drop the karaoke kid. None are slackers. She has had fun. </p>
<p>I wouldn’t advise my S to do it until he is done with college and is working. Once you get a job it is a little harder to meet people your age. I don’t have a problem with it, a ton of kids do it. one of his friends (recent grad) met his GF off of it-OKC that is. He says he will definitely try it, but he is going to involve himself in other things. Prowling for dates online IMO isn’t the way to go, it is simply a tool-and a good one if used properly.</p>
<p>My son met his g/f thru his grad school’s private online network. His friend works at a huge engineering firm in Wis., and met his s/o thru a company network.</p>
<p>H was a bit of a late bloomer. It’s pretty easy to observe that many smart/nerdy/techy boys are not date-ready in high school, but are more than worth the wait! I would only worry if they were out of college and you suspect they’re falling into a rut of thinking themselves undatable, or that there’s no one out there for them, or something equally negative.</p>
<p>D2 was in a college that didn’t have many date-worthy men so she went on OK Cupid and it worked out for her. They are still together 2+ years later although I haven’t asked her about any bad experiences with online dating before they met. There are many threads out there about the pitfalls of online dating! </p>
<p>Talk about late bloomers - I have a friend who got a second master’s degree from a school that made her eligible to go on that Ivy league online dating site. She said that men her age, in their 50’s, were saying they were looking to settle down and have a family! Good luck with that, dudes.</p>
<p>im also a late bloomer. Didnt start dating until sophmore year of college. didnt realize it was so easy. basically meet them through facebook and stuff.</p>
<p>I have a loved one who was in her mid 40s when she met her beloved. It was a 1st marriage for both. Neither even had serious relationships prior. They have been happily married for about 8 years now! They have also adopted an adorable S who was 6 when he was brought back by them to the US. They’re all doing great! :bz </p>
<p>I wouldn’t necessarily rule their aspirations out altogether. </p>
<p>One of the oldest cousins had his second marriage in his 50s and now he has a healthy D with a wonderful woman. Granted, he looks 2 decades younger with energy to match and is a fully engaged marriage partner/parent…not someone who expects his wife to do all the parenting and make him a sandwich. </p>
<p>Both my sister in laws divorced in their late 40’s, and their husbands remarried, Im assuming someone younger as they both now have young children.
If your fiancee really wants kids and you don’t, don’t expect that they will change their mind anymore than you will.
I would never say they had “failed” marriages though, as they both lasted well over 20 years.</p>
<p>They can be the stay at home dad.
If they are in their 50’s or 60’s when they start a family, in many cases their wives will be younger and working.</p>
I think they are often gross because they are heavily used. My favorite camping place in Maine is “semi-wilderness,” which in practice means that three widely-spaced campsites share an outhouse, and water is available at the office to take to your campsite. You have to walk in about 1/4 mile from the parking spot for your site. There were no showers anywhere. The outhouses were never yucky, but the clientele was limited. TMI? Maybe we do need a camping thread.</p>