I am crossing my fingers for you! Your son sounds like a great student who is worthy of lots of choices on March 10th. Unfortunately, acceptance rates are really low these days, especially at the first three schools on your list. I also worry that his SSAT score is too low for those same three schools. But fortunately, SSAT scores are not the be all end all.
In terms of recruiting, I suspect you would know if the coaches were actively interested. A friend of mine has a child who was “recruited” as a lax goalie to one of the schools on your list, and the coach showed up to games, and actively pursued the child. Another issue that family ran into is that a school only needs a certain amount of goalies…so if they’re short on goalies, your son will have an advantage, but if they already have an awesome goalie, and another coming up in the pipeline, they won’t be actively looking for another.
Since you do have such a well rounded list, I am hopeful that your son will get at least one offer that works! Best of luck to you. And if it doesn’t happen this year, I would definitely try again next year!