We don’t make appointments for our kids. ShawSon is bad at it, but as I mentioned, I suggested that he copy me explicitly discuss with his business partner hiring an executive assistant who would take care of personal things for him as well as business stuff. Now appointments get made. He still has a credit card that comes to me. He applied for a new one while he was visiting and when it comes through, he will cancel. But, he asked me to pay the existing one and just take the money from an account of his on which I am also a signatory. My guess is that the assistant will arrange for his bills to be paid automatically (and will review his bills when they come in to make sure there is nothing weird in them) as this is what I do. As far as I can see, ShawD manages appointments well.
Everything is about balance and helping and nudging your child to improve who has different make-up than you. My kid is very different from me in many interests and the way he reacts to things because of different environments in which we grew up.
So I read the posts without any judgment but in sympathy that we are parents who love our kids.
If our kid was an athletic kid, I am sure I would have done different activities, and if I were a billionaire, I would have taken one year off and visited all continents as a family to give them a broader perspectives But we were not; and as long as your kids have reached an understanding that you as parents tried to do your best for them with your good and bad points and they need to learn to be more responsible for their own selves, I say congratulations, you did your job.