<p>My mom and I were talking today about going away to college. She seems to think that going far to school is not a good idea. She says that kids who stay around their families are more successufl. I think that is ridiculous. My parents and I are not very close at all. (Due to the fact that they work 80 hrs a week) I think that part of her doesn’t want to foot the bill for tuition. I don’t think that the state schools in my area are analogous with who I am. What do you parents think?</p>
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<p>Could you explain?</p>
<p>Your mother actually believes that students who go to college close to home are more successful? Or does she think that students who come back to their hometowns after college are more successful? That’s the first time I’ve ever heard anything like that. And what’s the measure of that success, anyway?</p>
<p>I think that kids who successfully go away to college learn huge life lessons, as well as learn about themselves. I think, if kids have the opportunity to go away they should at least try. I do know of several students in our area, from one particular university 1 1/2 hours away, who transferred back to the local university. I wonder if they were too close (within driving distance) to actually give it a real chance.</p>
<p>Parents that work 80 hours a week should be given a little slack. When you consider all of the other life chores that they have to do, there isn’t much personal time available. If your parents work that hard to support your family, be grateful.</p>
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<p>I doubt that this statement is true as a general proposition. Think of all of the kids who go away to competitive schools and do well.</p>
<p>I think the issue of close-versus-far should be examined student by student. What works best for one may or may not work best for another.</p>
<p>I’ve heard parents use the “kids that stay closer to home do better” simply because they have their parents right there and they don’t have as many responsibilities and adjustments to do. I don’t really believe it. It’s just one of those things that parents who want you to stay close say. I’ve heard great things about going OOS, but it isn’t for everyone.</p>
<p>Even if your parents don’t give you much attention, they will miss seeing you, even if it’s not that often.</p>
<p>Maybe they really can’t afford to send you out of state and they don’t want to have to tell you that. Can/have you got any really good scholarships for out-of-state? That might help. If money really is an issue, pick the farthest away in state you have. Chances are that they won’t be able to drive a few hours if they are as busy as you say they are. Are you sure that the in-state schools don’t fit you or are you just trying to convince yourself of that because you want to get away from your current situtation?</p>