PhotoMom beat me to it, but I don’t think disclosing the other schools your child is applying to can possibly benefit him or her. At best the information is neutral, but it is for the school’s benefit and will be noted and used. The way to handle the direct question is with an honest, direct answer: I am considering several schools where I believe I can bring something special to the community and whose communities and programs match my interest in like does. Or a simple reply like, “We’re still working on a list of schools that seem to be a good fit for DC.” No need for names.
Until your child has a track record at said school, there is no way you can know this. Given what we now know about ChoatieKid’s FC school, we and he thank heaven he didn’t end up there.