My son did an overnight a U. of Puget Sound and happened to stay with someone who was active in the LGBT community and he described the folks he met as warm, friendly and welcoming. It’s definitely a very liberal environment with a significant contingent of artsy types around. There is some Greek life, but it’s not a dominant factor on campus. With that SAT score, you’d probably be eligible for their max merit award, which I think is over $20K/yr. That’s still not going to bring you all the way down to $25K/yr, though --probably closer to $35K. Not sure if they have any full tuition scholarships for exceptional candidates, as some schools do.
I’ll also point out that if you’re looking at private colleges, you don’t just need merit money but major merit money. Schools like Oberlin, Grinnell and Kenyon I think are going to leave you >$10K over your $25K target, because they’ve got sticker prices over $60K and will probably offer less than $20K/yr in aid. I think you’re going to need to go another notch or two down the selectivity ladder if you want big-time merit money.