<p>So my mom died last Monday. It really, really stinks, but especially at this time of year. I am going to miss her tremendously. But there are a couple of things I though would be interesting to share.</p>
<p>My mom was apparently one of the first scrap-bookers. She kept dozens of books of pictures, newspaper clippings, etc. All of her albums were dated, and some dated back to the 1940’s era. We went back to her home after the funeral and all of the grand-children spent hours going through these albums. They each had a pile of pictures to take home. They were so thrilled to see and get these photos. It was very heartwarming to spend the time reminiscing.</p>
<p>While driving back home (over 4 hour drive) after the funeral, I was feeling really sad and conversing, mentally, with my mother. I asked if she was ok and at peace. I asked her to send me a sign, if she could, that I would know was a sign when I saw it.</p>
<p>A little while later we pulled into a NJ Parkway rest area to get some gas. This is a brightly lite, heavily populated area, As we pulled out of the gas station, both my H and I saw a bright falling star. My H asked-" Did you see that?" I knew that was the sign. My H later conveyed to me that he thought this an odd thing to see where we were , etc.</p>
<p>I’m sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing this story, it’s really inspiring. </p>
<p>I had a similar experience once. I asked for a sign, something tangible that I would recognize when I saw it, and a deer trotted across the road right in front of me on an abandoned street while I was stopped at a light-- right at that moment. I’d never seen one before,especially not in the middle of the suburbs. These kinds of things are real gifts.</p>
<p>Morrismom, so sorry for your loss. I hope you can have a peaceful holiday, I know your mother would wish it for you. </p>
<p>My father died about eight months before my oldest son was born. After my son was born I was feeling so sad that he would never know his grandfather and that my father would never know his grandson. That night I dreamt that my father was sitting on our living room coach, holding my son , smiling and saying “What a beautiful boy, what a wonderful boy”. It was sign that my father will always be watching us.</p>
<p>I also had a similar experience. After my dad died and before my mom died (10 months apart), I turned around one day and “saw” my dad with a big grin on his face fishing in a lake where he summered years ago. It left me such a feeling of peace that I was better able to handled the lost of my mother. Peace to you.</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your loss – but how nice about the scrapbooks!</p>
<p>Part of the sorrow after a death is that you won’t be able to build more memories with that person, but the scrapbooks provide an opportunity to learn things about your mom that maybe you never knew. It’s like getting to know her a little bit better.</p>
<p>When each of my parents died, my sister and I had to go through masses of papers for financial reasons. In the process, we discovered lots of documents that gave us insights into parts of their lives we had known little about – and about the lives of other family members, too. There was even a letter to our grandmother from a long-lost family member whom we had always been curious about but had never met.</p>
<p>morrismm, I’m very sorry about your loss. How beautiful that you got a sign from your mom, and have those wonderful photos to treasure. I wish you peace and the ability to keep your mom alive in your heart…she will always live on through you and yours. Blessings to you.</p>
<p>This is a tough time to lose a loved one… my sympathies. It was generous of you to share the scrap books and photos with your grandchildren. At some point, when you’re ready, you could copy the remaining photographs/mementos, and make them into a book for each grandchild. It would be a wonderful gift - a legacy from both you, and your mother.</p>
<p>Im sorry to hear of the loss of your loved ones.</p>
<p>My mom died a year ago Thursday- my dad has been gone for 35 years.
Not really many relatives in the area left- except my brother & sister- with whom I don’t share much besides DNA.
( They also have managed to retain virtually everything of my mothers as her will was unclear & I do not feel like hiring a lawyer)-
but I do have a few pictures- scrapbooks would be a very nice rememberance , you may want to have those photos scanned onto a disc to save that info for posterity.</p>
<p>So sorry morrismm. It’s really hard at Christmas. My Mom died 7 years ago yesterday (Dec.18). Like you, we got out all the old photo albums after the funeral, sharing the pictures with extended family. My older sis took them all home and made an album for each of the three of us and gave it to us the following Christmas. I still look thru it now and then, esp. at this time of year. I hope all the grandchildren will cherish your mother’s memories in pictures.</p>
<p>So six days after my Mom’s death it was Christmas Eve. Off to church we went.
I was sad and wasn’t feeling so spititual. Then we started singing “Hark the Herald Angels Sing” and all of a sudden it hit me like a ton of bricks that Momma was singing with the angels now and wasn’t sick or hurting or scared anymore. Suddenly my eyes welled up. I felt her there looking down on me and singing and knew she was OK.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry for your loss, but happy to hear your inspirational experience. My father passed away 5 years ago. He was a gifted painter and avid bird watcher. Growing up, he and my mother had always especially loved the cardinals, and told me that you will never see the male without the female being somewhere close by. And so every time I would spot one, I would look around for it’s mate and found it to be true. Shortly after he died, in my grief and sadness, I heard the loud chirping I had come to know distinctly as the cardinal’s call. I was in a small room and turned my head to see ‘him’ sitting on a branch directly in front of the window, looking straight at me. I froze so as not to frighten him, and he stared back for the longest time. My father’s presence was so tangible my heart nearly burst. I knew this was my sign from dad, and to this day, a cardinal visits me regularly at the same window, but always without a mate nearby. I suspect that when mom passes, I will be visited by the pair.</p>
<p>morrismm, I’m so sorry about the loss of your mother. I’m glad you got the gift of the sign, and I’m also glad you were able to share those wonderful memories with your family members after the service. Those are times you never forget, and always treasure.</p>
<p>Thank you all so much. I’m glad to know others have had signs from recently passed loved ones.</p>
<p>My H was out doing something the afternoon after my mom’s funeral. He called me on the phone to say go outside and look up. There was a big white blimp above my mother’s house. It had no advertising on it. My H felt it was a sign from mom and that is why he called me.</p>
<p>My mom fought her weight her entire life. She exercised before it was “in”, and ate salad for lunch for ever. My memory of my mom is exercising and watching what she ate. But was always a size 14, 16 or 18. So I can definitely see her referring to herself as 'The big white blimp." She wasn’t, of course, and this would be said in fun. </p>
<p>But my H saw it as a sign from my mom. That is why he called me to go look. I asked my mom for another sign, to confirm (I know, getting a bit demanding from the dead) after I saw the shooting star. My H later revealed to me why he wanted me to go out and look at the blimp (which had occurred earlier). Now I think that I’ve had my two signs.</p>
<p>I wished I believed in signs but I don’t-
however my father died on the 16th of June- our dog was born on the 16th of June & I had a 2nd term miscarriage on the 16th of June.( different years)
My mother also died on the 16th but of Dec.
interesting coincidences though.</p>
<p>^^^my father had two brothers who were inseparable…friends and family referred to them as The Three Amigos and they all passed away on the 3rd of different months…interesting coincidence as well.</p>