<p>I really need some serious advice and I would really appreciate it if everyone would be as kind as possible. I'm a junior in the nursing program at my current university. I spent my freshman year at another 4-year university and absolutely hated it. I was in a relationship at the time and never got out and spent most of my time with him. I would go home almost every weekend since my college was only 45 minutes away so I never really got that "traditional first-year experience" even though I was living in the dorms. I ultimately decided that my university was not a good fit for me and I wanted out. So, I transferred, choosing a university that was in close proximity to my boyfriend. When I transferred, I decided I did not want to live in the dorms but instead wanted to live off campus in an apartment with my friend and my boyfriend. I spent the first year at my new university living with him, and my second year as well. I never involved myself on campus or with the social scene because I was so wrapped up in the relationship - I was positive we were meant for one another, I was young and in love for the first time, how I so painfully regret my decision now. </p>
<p>My boyfriend and I broke up in the summer after 4 years and I moved in with my 2 friends from high school who don't go to school with me. I thought this would help me to have the social life I have deprived myself of for so long but it turns out it hasn't. They work a lot and are both in relationships. I literally wake up, go to school, come home, do homework, go to sleep (repeat). I seriously am at a complete loss. If I never transferred, I would be graduating this spring but when I transferred to my new university, I changed my major, which set me a year back, so I am technically a junior at the university I am at now. I am seriously considering transferring and just sucking it up and doing an extra year at the new university and starting fresh. This means I would graduate in 6 years vs 5 years. I know how completely ridiculous and illogical this idea may sound - the idea of transferring again, but I am completely miserable. I'm 21 years old and I should be thoroughly enjoying my life and I am not at all. The only friends I have are a few friends from high school that I continue to find I really have very little in common with. I would love to just start at a university where I could live in the dorms with other transfer students and then spend my last year hopefully living off campus with friends that I would make there.
I know that college is about getting an education, but I also know it is a time for one to find out who they are, to be irresponsible, to grow as a person.... I feel I haven't done that at all. I am turning 22 in the summer and I feel like I am the same person I was when I graduated high school. I am seriously having a life crisis and I don't know what to do. I have never been to the bars near my campus, I have never been to a college party at my university, I have never gotten wasted when I have class the next day, and the list could go on. I don't want to look back on my college years and have no stories to tell, no good memories to look back on, but at his point, that is what I am finding. </p>
<p>The only friends I have at my current university are the few that I see in class, and the reason I don't see them outside of class is because we really don't have much in common and none of them really go out. Everyone at my school is very cliquey as well - I have tried so hard to make friends. I join clubs and I try and be as social as possible. I am so nice to everyone and I know I'm not socially awkward or anything - everyone just already has their cliques from freshman year established and since I know literally no one and have no plans to offer up since I have no friends at school, I never get anywhere. This summer I studied abroad and I thought that would be the perfect opportunity to meet people from my school and hopefully come back in the fall with a set of friends - WRONG. I am so sick of being alone. When my friends are home from college, it is nice to see them and go out and I have a social life then, but during school, I don't. I am so outgoing, and I had so many friends in high school, so I am not used to this. I guess I didn't realize how much I was missing out on when I was with my boyfriend because at the time I didn't care, I was blind to it. I really don't know what to do. I feel so lost and I am so depressed. My mom thinks I need to just finish up my last 3 semesters at my current university (which is very expensive) and try as hard as possible to make friends, and trust me, if it was that easy I would, but it is NOT at all. One thing I failed to mention is that my university is in a large city - it is an urban campus, so some students live all over the city, although most live right around campus - in other words, I have no "college town". I don't want to graduate in 1 year and a half and be in the same position socially that I am now because I know that after college it just becomes even more difficult to make friends. Someone, please give me some advice, I don't know what to do.</p>