LOL D finally admited she's "lazy" .....

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<p>Well, it’s been a running argument in our house for at least 8 years - she didn’t apply herself enough . In high school she got by with minimum effort but fared ok so I tried to hold my tongue. She got into an equivalent of a decent state school, I had hoped she would do better but was ok with it. Her first year at college was tough. She didn’t quite have the work ethic of most kids there. For the first time in her life she actually tried and found that the grades don’t come easily. </p>

<p>I tried to tell her her work habits has to change. Both her dad and I told her we had never seen such an easy life in a college student in a serious major, we had worked 10 times harder in our days. She rolled her eyes and said we are old and our ways are ancient and school life is different now. Well, I thought, I may be old and out of date, but I aced economics courses and business courses with no trouble and she was the one struggling a bit and I <em>know</em> she is more intelligent than both of us. She only started paying more attention to my suggestions after flubbing quite a few midterms.</p>

<p>She’s a rising junior now and is working in an investment company for summer. In passing yesterday she admitted she’s lazy. Today we talked a bit more and she said, “mom, I always knew I was lazy, it’s just that I won’t admit it to YOU !” :rolleyes:</p>

<p>I could have saved my breath and time researching how to talk to your teenager (was trying to get my points across) and how many hours of study is sufficient, etc etc. Pfffft.</p>

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<p>Well, maybe one of us will learn from your experience and save our breath on whatever it is that drives us crazy about our own child (ipod too loud, too much time on facebook, etc., etc.</p>

<p>Thanks!</p>

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<p>Is this the “admitting you have a problem” stage that comes before the “I’m going to do something about it” stage…or was it just a statement of fact?</p>

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<p>wow, parents using the word “lol”.</p>

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<p>Ah, the arrogance of youth. I just was told today how stupid I am (again), son doesn’t know what he doesn’t know… An incentive to survive the teenage years- hearing you were right… How many more weeks until they go back???</p>

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<p>My daughter admitted to me that she was shallow. I was going to follow up with some lecture on deeper meaning of life. She then quickly said to me, “And I am fine with it.”</p>

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<p>I thought I’ll share the story and the chuckle. I wonder if other parents have similar experiences too. I swear my kids just like to challenge my parenting skills for the heck of it. At my kids’ age, it’s going to be life that is going to teach them lessons, not us, there are just less and less things parents can do about “it” anymore. </p>

<p>Lol at oldfort’s d.</p>

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<p>A statement of fact then…</p>

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<p>I am going to tape this quote on my mirror. Hopefully, it will help me keep my mouth shut.</p>

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<p>I feel so guilty reading this thread.</p>