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<p>Downright lies and untruths are easy to post in online dating sites. Eventually, they do come out. Not necessarily apparent on first meeting - even if you are observant. </p>

<p>My sister chose to believe it and was shocked to realize she had been had. B that time, she was pretty invested in relationship. Could that have happened even if she met him at work or a social situation? Maybe, but it is also just as likely she would have learned be was married several months earlier, maybe from a colleague or friend in social network. He posted “divorced” on his profile.</p>

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<p>I messed up in that posting as I meant it’s harder to hide your true self IRL as opposed to behind an online profile. </p>

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<p>Indeed. However, they’re not always bad. Some people exist to serve as unintended comic relief. :D</p>

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<p>I hate when that happens, cobrat! Autocorrect usually messes everything up. In fact, it changed you to cobras in my response just now.</p>

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<p>I’ll bet people are always fatter and older than they post on the internet! But since I’m only 26 and 105 pounds, I certainly wouldn’t have to lie about it. :D</p>

<p>I haven’t read the article either, I just found the critiques. I didn’t see the article on the original post, but I’ll look for it.</p>

<p>Yes, Samurai, we can only hope. For right now, the oldest one has a girlfriend (hallelujah)…from his college, same age, comp sci major. I guess if you do find your mate in college, you just might find someone with very similar intellect and career aspirations as you. Probably more likely than on the internet. Not that I’m knocking the internet, one of my friends met her husband of many years on the internet, before it was even common.</p>

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<p>You are just celebrating the anniversary of your 26th birthday, is all.</p>

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<p>That’s right! Again, and again, and again…</p>

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<p>My D met her sig other online. Not on a dating site, but on a community board that had local meetups. </p>

<p>Ive met a few men through my volunteer activities if I was looking ( I’m not - but men that I meet doing environmental restoration, i.e. digging up blackberry roots, or related activities, are 100% more appealing than anyone Ive ever met in a bar)</p>

<p>I wont disagree that many men are looking for someone younger, as are some women, but there are also men who are looking for a younger " attitude" not necessarily a younger body.</p>

<p>People that are open to learning new things and arent stuck in a rut are more pleasant to be around than someone who has rigid expectations for others.</p>

<p>We have the potential to be healthier than previous generations. You dont have to give birth in your mid 20’s. Even 30 years ago I had friends who were having kids in their 40’s. in fact, according to my hormone levels *I * could still get pregnant @ 55!, if my husband hadn’t had a vasectomy 15 yrs ago.</p>

<p>I also think that many people aren’t comfortable in their own skin until their mid 20’s -mid 30’s, ( or later) so why would they want to marry someone & start a family just to check off that box? We aren’t going to go extinct if even a whole generation of Princeton students do not reproduce. :eek:</p>

<p>But actually, giving advice to " grab a mate" in a preselected pool, to young women the author considers the " cr</p>

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<p>In fairness, the author said today on NPR that Princeton womens’ choices aren’t limited to Princeton men. Apparently, they could potentially be happy with a man from any Ivy League school. So you see, she really is open-minded. :)</p>

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<p><em>Is having gleefully evil thoughts about sending this story to the NE state party school grad older cousin married to his Princeton sweetheart.</em></p>

<p>So tempting to play the part of the obnoxious younger brother/cousin. </p>

<p>Sometimes…being one of the youngest members of a generation does have its perks. :D</p>

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<p>BTW: Here’s a song many Princetonian women are probably thinking of regarding the prospect of having Susan Patton as an in-law:</p>

<p>[Real</a> McCoy { Run Away Lyrics } - YouTube](<a href=“- YouTube”>- YouTube)</p>

<p>And here’s an appropriate song for Susan Patton regarding the gawker article:</p>

<p><a href=“The Silver Bullets - Love´s Made A Fool Of You - YouTube”>The Silver Bullets - Love´s Made A Fool Of You - YouTube;

<p>The original Buddy Holly version:</p>

<p><a href=“Loves Made a Fool of You Buddy Holly - YouTube”>Loves Made a Fool of You Buddy Holly - YouTube;

<p>Ha! A few female FB friends said this song from our college years really epitomized Patton:</p>

<p><a href=“Green Day - Basket Case [Official Music Video] - YouTube”>Green Day - Basket Case [Official Music Video] - YouTube;

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<p><em>Is having gleefully evil thoughts about sending this story to the NE state party school grad older cousin married to his Princeton sweetheart.</em></p>

<p>How thoughtful.
:rolleyes:</p>

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<p>I would like to know, as a college educated male, where to tap into the abundance of college educated single and looking women. Parents pm me if interested, I went to a top 25 school, hope that’s acceptable.</p>

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<p>Friends of friends are a good resourse RT.
You may have shared interests & your friends can vouch for you.</p>

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<p>RT, what is your debt to equity ratio?</p>

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<p>Note to daughter: Pick a college with a large graduate school, and start off dating the grad students.</p>

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<p>FWIW, I did date grad students in college and again in law school. I was NOT ready to settle down as I didn’t feel I had finished growing and changing and wouldn’t until I had worked at my career and stopped being a student. I am glad I didn’t rush to start my family when I was younger and had the time and leisure to figure out what makes ME happy instead of being the “pleaser” I was through most of my young life. </p>

<p>There is a lot to be said to feeling “settled” and comfortable in your own skin before you decide to make a lifetime commitment with another person. I think it has made my life and marriage much more harmonious.</p>

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<p>…before other colleges starting weighing in </p>

<p>[Susan</a> Patton’s Marriage Advice for College Women | Flyby](<a href=“http://www.thecrimson.com/series/close-reading/article/2013/3/31/close-reading-patton-women/#]Susan”>http://www.thecrimson.com/series/close-reading/article/2013/3/31/close-reading-patton-women/#)</p>

<p>[HOLMES:</a> A letter to the letter to the editor | Yale Daily News](<a href=“http://yaledailynews.com/blog/2013/04/02/holmes-a-letter-to-the-letter-to-the-editor/]HOLMES:”>HOLMES: A letter to the letter to the editor - Yale Daily News)</p>

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<p>but people that “date online” still go on dates in real life… at least that is how I thought it worked. They just find the person online. Then it is dating the same as always.</p>

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<p>Manti Te’o disagrees with you.</p>

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<p>If you are not ready to be married, then you shouldn’t be getting married. I see the takeaway from the article as:</p>

<p>Life is full of choices. As you make those choices, doors close behind you. Most people value career and family. The issue is which gets a higher priority at what point in your life. Some pursue a career, and put family a distant 2nd. Some put family first. Can you have it all? Not really. You can’t pursue a career as a fisherman while you hold down a second 60 hour a week job. Can you have the job and fish on the weekends? Sure, but that is not the same.</p>

<p>Can you have a career and a family? Sure, but most likely you will need to sacrifice one over the other. At least initially.</p>

<p>As you get older, the number of eligible, qualified (meets your criteria), partners decline. It is pure math. As people get married, the number of eligible partners decline. It is also self selecting. Your qualifications are similar to other people, and those left are more and more less qualified.</p>

<p>Implication: You can be choosy now when the pool is large, but as you age, the pool gets smaller and smaller, and it makes it harder and harder to find “the one”. This is especially true for women. If men tend to marry younger women, then the pool of eligible men (men your age or older) diminishes faster than the pool for men (women 10+ years younger or older) - at age 30, there are more eligible qualified women age 20+ than there are eligible qualified men age 30+.</p>

<p>So, the Author says: Pool is largest when you are in college, and you are naturally around a large pool of qualified men. Take advantage of the opportunity. If you put career first, that is your choice, but your open door for a family will start to close faster than you think. That is path you are on. Like it or not.</p>

<p>If you anticipate putting a value on family, but not just now. Be forewarned that the likelihood of achieving that goal gets smaller and smaller each year that you have not achieved it. Choices today may make you happier today. But being an adult means making choices that make you happier over your life. If, over your life, family is more important, then maybe you should put more value in that today.</p>