<p>I’ve been with my gf for about a long time and when I leave for Michigan, we will have been together for nearly 2 years. Shes going to UC Irvine Honors and we’ll be about a 2.5 hour plane ride apart. </p>
<p>For many of you who were in relationships prior to leaving for college what happened? To be more specific to those who were with someone for a year or longer and if you guys stayed together how did you deal with it? (i.e. attractions to other people, the distance, etc)</p>
<p>I went through something similar to this during sophmore year. My gf was pretty far away and I only had a chance to see her about once every month, which I guess is more often than how your visits will be. So here is whatever advice I can give to make it a little easier. </p>
<p>-Trust is key. If you are a jealous type who is constantly monitoring and asking questions, don’t even bother to begin with. It will consume your time and your life when you are that far apart. You both need to trust each other to not give into temptations. Obviously the temptations will be there. Girls will be all around you, many of which you will realize you could probably get into that bed of yours without too much effort. Make sure that those thoughts stay in your head. Don’t let them get the better of you. By the way, this is alot easier said than done. </p>
<p>-Communication- I’m sure that if you are that far away, you will be talking alot. Obviously get a nice cell plan that lets you talk or txt anytime you want. Being able to pix message is nice because then you can see each other anytime. This can mean alot to a girl by the way. Talk on a regular schedule but don’t go overboard (i.e. talking like 5 hrs a night). Remember, you will have lots of college friends and other relationships in college. Don’t let the long distance relationship with your gf hinder your relationships with your friends and peers at school. By that I mean, don’t sit in your room to talk to your gf a whole night while your friends are hanging out and would love to have you come along. You need to balance friend and gf life. Talking all the time and sacrificing your personal life with your friends will only make the distance seem worse. </p>
<p>Think of some creative ways to make the distance seem a little shorter. Send her stuff once in awhile as a surprise. You’d be amazed at how much it means to a girl to get something thoughtful in the mail, whether it is just a card ot a bouquet of flowers, even if it is for no specific occasion. Just because you miss her. Maybe buy a web-cam so you can see each other while you talk. Like I said, it is all about making the distance dissappear. </p>
<p>Sorry if this went kind of long but I know that I would have loved some opinions before going into a long-distance type thing. So I hope it helps you out. One more important thing. Whether a long-distance relationship will work is usually predetermined before the experience actually begins. It depends on the people involved and their characteristics, and how strong their relationship is. If you have been together 2 years and your relationship is very stong, you have a better chance than someone who hasn’t been dating too long and their bond is just starting to form. So give it a shot, make the best of it, and I hope it works out for you. (By the way, my gf and me are still together after a whole year of long-distance)</p>
<p>Similar situation here. I’ve been with my gf for a little over two years and I’ll be going to MIT and she’s at Stanford. I think the plane ride is about 6 hours.</p>
<p>The most prohibitive thing I’m thinking about is how often I can visit her or her me, and how much money I need to pay for those plane tickets. We definitely talk on the phone a lot, and we’re thinking about setting up a webcam so we can still sorta see each other.</p>
<p>MIT to Stanford. Wow, and I thought I had it bad with a 7 hr drive to Pennsylvania from Boston. That must take some serious dedication to make it work</p>
<p>Watch 星の声 (ほしのこえ)f or an idea…</p>
<p>yeah itll be interesting but thanks for the good advice.</p>
<p>Don’t get a webcam, and spend every hour of every day either playing Wow/CS and talking to your girlfriend on said webcam. It will drive your roommate crazy. That is all.</p>
<p>LOL someone sounds bitter</p>
<p>Consummate the relationship before you begin the long distance (if you have not already). If you don’t, you’re bound to split quickly. ;)</p>
<p>Haha yea. “C’mon baby, were gonna be sooo far away. How bout you give me something to remember you by…” Lol that one has to work. I’m guessing that after 2 years, thats not a concern for our guy here. (At least I hope not…)</p>
<p>hahaha my lips are sealed : D.</p>