Long distance relationships

<p>What are your experiences with long distance relationships? Do they generally work or not? Is it possible to maintain it if you see the person 2 or 3 months a year? And also, do both people lose interest after a while or does it usually stay?</p>

<p>In my experience they can work out, but there's also so much you both miss - all of those little moments - that at times it's overwhelming when you realize you're just not there for most of their lives. When you finally see that person again, though, it's worth it. The main thing is - it has to be someone you can talk to. If you can't talk, write long emails, etc, it's going to be a lot harder. Mine didn't work out, I have three friends in long distance relationships and two of them go insane whenever their "other" isn't there, the third is having a better time on her own (she is, thank god, not as dependent as the others), but her boyfriend isn't the communicative type and so she regrets that he doesn't go into detail about things. All three of them and their boyfriends do strange things like fall asleep with pictures of each other in their arms and smell their old sweatshirts that they'll never wash, and so on. No one's lost interest.</p>

<p>Hey odysseus, judging from some of your other posts, you seem to be struggling with the same questions I had/still have. I am a freshman in college going to my state university because they offered me a flood of money and because my significant other is there (and I live at home with my family).</p>

<p>Everday I am grateful for the fact that I see my significant other on a regular basis and that we are able to share with each other about "those little moments" in our lives. </p>

<p>Yet, I still find myself on CC. I suppose I could attribute it to old habbits dying hard, but the bottom line is that I am completely dissatisfied with my choice in schools. It kills me to know that I won't have the undergraduate experience that I want and that I read about on here.</p>

<p>I've made the decision that I will at least apply to 2 schools to transfer to my sophomore year. I've decided this because I thought about things like when my future kids (maybe hopefully with my sig other!) start the college process, I would most definitely advocate them going off to college to their top choice. And then I realized that I don't want to live vicariously through my kids or my friends who've gone through it.</p>

<p>Yet, there is the other side of the argument. A good college education is important, but being around the people you love is important as well...</p>

<p>As you can see, I am still as confused as ever about whether or not to transfer. I wouldn't be able to offer you any advice, but if you're interested in talking to someone in a similar situation, feel free to IM me. I'd love to discuss this with someone. And that goes for anybody that is in a similar situation.</p>

<p>Long distance relationships can definitely work, if, as limon said, you are good at communicating. My brother's girlfriend lived in TX (we're in NY) for one year, and then went to Vassar, still 3 hours away, and they saw each other maybe once a month after she went to college, much less before that. They were together for 3 years, and then ironically, she went to do grad work at Brown where my brother's doing undergrad, and they broke up.</p>

<p>I think they can work if both parties are willing and able to put in the effort, because it definitely is not easy. Personally, it didn't work out too well for me but I have friends who have made it work. Good luck, I know it's hard!</p>