<p>jym -I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory be for a blessing.</p>
<p>sistersunnie - I think of you often and wish you peace.</p>
<p>{{hugs}} to you both.</p>
<p>Jym – whatever you choose for the funeral will be fine. You can’t please everyone, and this is a time when you should not even try. People who have not had to deal with making arrangements like these have no idea how little flexibility you might have in trying to schedule a wake/viewing, religious/memorial service, and burial in reasonably close timeframes. The small cemetery where my parents are buried only allows two burial services to take place in the same two hour period, and only one in any one section of the cemetery – that necessitated adjusting the time of the funeral, which was itself a challenge. I got good at saying, “It was the best we could arrange given the time constraints.” </p>
<p>Sending thoughts of peace and good memories to both jym and sistersunnie.</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your family and the loss of your father, jym, and for all of you (us) who have lost loved ones. It is so hard.</p>
<p>jym, I am so sorry about your father. I remember that you were dealing with house repairs for him, from a distance, a few years ago. My father died a few years ago and it is still hard to accept that he is gone. I feel fortunate that he lived until almost 80, with mind intact. </p>
<p>sistersunnie, I wish I had the words to comfort you. It must be especially hard to deal with the loss of a spouse when your children are away. You’ve gone from a family of four to being alone in such a short time.</p>
<p>Prayed for both of you.</p>
<p>Jym626 and sistersunnie, so sorry for your loss. It doesn’t get any easier.</p>
<p>I miss my brother who died at the age of 22, he was my best friend. I think of him daily and when things get tough in my life, I miss him even more. I miss my parents, I always feel like an orphan. It amazes me when people complain about their parents, who alway give them advise and interfere, I would love to be able to get advice or be told when I ve done something less than stellar. I have to just make my mistakes and hope for the best.
Life has been different since most of my family is gone. It’s just the 3 of us and we have a small world that we fill with friends and activities.</p>
<p>Oh, JYM - I was away yesterday and at appointments today and I kept wondering about your dad. I am so sorry for your loss, but relieved that your dad’s passage from this life to the next was not prolonged. You were obviously a wonderful daughter to him and he was so blessed to have your advocacy when he needed you most. </p>
<p>Sistersunnie - hugs to you. I am sure there isn’t a day that you don’t miss your best bud - but holidays and changes of seasons must be particularly difficult. I am so glad you have your daughters to enjoy and love.</p>
<p>My daughter called me this morning. Longtime family friend matriarch died this morning. The grandfather on the other side of the family died last week. </p>
<p>Jym Sister Sunnie: My deepest sympathies to you both. But Jym, your thoughts of your parents being together for Valentine’s Day made me cry. </p>
<p>May you remember them in good times when you want to share the joy. And may they give you strength and their memory support you in bad times.</p>
<p>so sorry for your loss, ellebud</p>
<p>Jym, are the elders still expecting you to arrange their rides? I sure hope your DH sits beside you on the way to and from the funeral. The elders just think we in the middle of the sandwich are so young, and able to round them up. Under normal circumstances, sure; but they are forgetting that you will be grieving. If you feel your DH’s best place is beside you on the funeral drive, that is the way to go. I hope it works out so you have the support you need.</p>
<p>It’s so hard for everyone; Milkandsugar so sorry that your family is gone and your brother passing at 22 is unbearably young. I lost my mother when I was 30 and am scared about the possibility of losing anyone else I am close to…something I know is not only inevitable but now that I’m in my early 50’s , more likely sooner than later. Jym and Sistersunnie…I am so sorry for what you are and have been going through.</p>
<p>Jym: The sun is starting to go down here and I am thinking about you. Please know that you are in my thoughts.</p>
<p>Hey jym - You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.</p>
<p>jym, so sorry for your loss.</p>
<p>sistersunnie, thinking of you and wishing you wonderful memories to help you.</p>
<p>Last Valentine’s Day, my mom was in a rehab facility recovering from a broken leg. Dad and her friends gave her fake flowers, because the facility wouldn’t allow real ones due to allergy concerns. Two weeks later, she was dying. I didn’t know how hard it would hit me, but it really has. We moved my mom from the hospital to a hospice on a Thursday afternoon, and she died the following morning. I had spent the night with her, listening to her breath become more & more shallow. The nurses told me that it would only be a short time before she transitioned. In the morning, when my dad walked in the room, he was holding the fake flowers from Valentine’s Day; he wanted to brighten her room. I told him that Mom was almost gone. He dropped the flowers and looked at me … I will never forget the hurt in his eyes. He simply said, “What am I going to do? She has been my life for 55 years.” Death is never easy.</p>
<p>To all who have lost loved ones … remember them fondly this Valentine’s Day. We have our memories to comfort us and to keep us close in spirit. Hugs to all who need them!</p>
<p>Jym…</p>
<p>I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved dad.</p>
<p>My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.</p>
<p>{ hugs }</p>
<p>SisterSunnie…</p>
<p>I think I missed earlier info. Did you recently lose your husband and your parent? </p>
<p>My thoughts and prayers are with you, too.</p>
<p>{ hugs }</p>
<p>Kelsmom… your story is very touching. Was your mom’s passing related to her leg in some way? Or did something else happen?</p>
<p>mom2collegekids,</p>
<p>Its been nearly two years now but I recently commented on another thread that I missed him very much. I think year two may be harder than the first year…Thankfully both my parents are very much alive. </p>
<p>I think I am confused how this thread got started, I didnt start it but it shows my name. However the origin, I thank everyone for their kindness. Your comments mean alot and are a comfort. </p>
<p>jym- this is a raw painful time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Try to take care of yourself. Kelsmom- those anniversary dates are a bite, arent they?</p>
<p>CC community,
Please add my family to your prayers.
We will be burying my mother on Valentine’s Day.
It is hard, for sure, but we relish the memories that were created in the 34 months (to the day) since her diagnosis of stage IV lung cancer.</p>
<p>ah mominva I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and yours.</p>
<p>It’s been a rough year:
My Dad
DH’s Aunt
DHs Brother
Our dog…at the anniversary of my Dad’s death!</p>
<p>Sheesh.</p>
<p>En route to the cemetary and feel compelled to update my cc family!</p>