making friends and having a social life

<p>in general, do you think that it is/was easier to make friends in college than in high school? and why? if you did not have much of social life in high school does that automatically mean you will not have a social life in college also? how does one go about having a social life in high school? thanks. lol.</p>

<p>it should be much easier for people to make friends in college bc college ppl are less concerned about the superficial (for the most part) such as cliques, whatever. also, chances are your college population will be much bigger than your highschool, so you'll have a better chance of being able to relate to people like yourself. dont worry, itll all work out.</p>

<p>i'm a senior in high school, but from a logical standpoint, film nailed it.
read my posts in the "how to ask girls out in college" post for some tips at bettering yourself socially.</p>

<p>"how does one go about having a social life in high school? "</p>

<p>Be social!</p>

<p>Seriously. I'm not being sarcastic. You can't just be totally shy and introverted and expect that people are going to want to hang out with you. Trust me, I know it's hard to just start from scratch and make friends when a lot of cliques are already formed, but if you really want to, it's totally doable.</p>

<p>Just sit down next to someone and ask them a question. Like "Is anyone sitting here?"
Ask them what they thought of last night's homework
Or if they heard such-and-such on the the news.
Or something like "Oh, I heard that you're really into music. I play the ____."
Or, "Oh wow, I really like your (insert item of clothing here). Where did you get it?" Or "I'm really confused about the homework, can you help?" (even if you don't really need the help)
Ask them to join a study group, or something equally neutral until you get to know them.</p>

<p>The point is, unless you have two exceptionally extroverted people, most first encounters are going to be a little bit forced/awkward. Plow on. It doesn't matter what you talk about,just talk and little by little people's personalities will reveal themselves and from there you can decide whether or not you want to be their friend. But people respond to confidence, and if you are confident, and show a lot of interest in someone, more likely than not they will engage you. </p>

<p>But again, if you don't put any effort into it, or if your effort is half-arsed, don't expect to suddenly have this buzzing social life.</p>

<p>I have a 20 y/o daughter who is a sophomore at a DI college in Connecticut. She starts for the lacrosse team and does well academically. While she is friendly with a number of people, she has no close female friends. </p>

<p>She feels alone, finds girls to be extremely mean, inconsiderate, catty, and unusually hard to get along with. She likes her professors, enjoys her classes, and generally like the size of the University. However, she gets to a point every semester where she just doesn’t want to stay because of “the people”. She doesn’t have ANY close friends.</p>

<p>I’m writing to see if anyone else has had to deal with this feeling of aloneness. I’d love to hear from anyone who has overcome the ‘friend / roommate’ issues. I feel so badly for my daughter and I am at a loss to make suggestions.</p>

<p>I personally found it much easier to make friends in college than in high school. Although I went to a college where most freshmen did not know anyone else, so everyone was very open to meeting new people, at least at the beginning. I met most of my friends in my freshman dorm, in classes, or in the cafeteria. I did not have many friends in high school, and I had many more in college. Joining extra-curricular activites is a great way to meet people. Try talking to your neighbor, the student sitting next to you in class, or someone who is sitting along in the cafeteria.</p>