^ LOL …should have added his obsession with the Green Bay Packers!
And although we have lived in suburban DC for 35 years…we are midwesterners.
Well, kudos to all the males associated with CC people!!! 
Also I’m glad to know I’m not alone.
One thing about my H. He is not going to listen to what I say if he doesn’t want to do it. That is not a trait he has, listening to his wife!
Honestly there isn’t a lot we do together. I DO have a community garden. I do a large amount of the yard work. I still work full time so he has all those hours of the day that I’m not here to do his nothing! This also became more evident when I was WFH.
Our dog died in February. He was hugely attached. I’ve been looking - he is not fully on board. Doesn’t want to get his heart broken again. I do not see him working with kids.
It’s a dilemma! Clearly he has to want to do something…he seems satisfied not. But I don’t think it’s healthy. Honestly I feel it’s aging him.
Because my husband thinks he doesn’t have enough to do…
He’s always thought of teaching after he retires. He’d like to teach calculus or thermodynamics. Something like that lol! He has a masters in engineering.
Would your husband think about teaching a class at the community college? Intro to forestry? How to identify trees? Camp counselor at forestry camp?
Kinda surprised he doesn’t hunt, every forestry major I’ve ever met are big into hunting and fishing. But then almost every Michigander I’ve met, likes to hunt.
My strength training podcasts often mention the need for bio-identical hormone replacement therapy for both men & women with aging.
For men, the description of low T sounds like depression — not enjoying activities that were once enjoyable, lots of sitting around without the motivation to do much, even things that need to be done. A loss of vibrancy.
My husband would not know what to do with himself if he wasn’t working so much. His days off are devoted to recovering from work — feet up & Netflix.
Possibly depressed?
I agree since he loved his job maybe something related. Hot major is environmental science. Maybe he can get involved with this in someway. Using his knowledge to help others. Men tend to like to talk about what they know about. There might be some meet up groups (virtual now) around this.
Does he have an interest that he has some knowledge about? Maybe not work related? Many forums… Lol… But with people using their knowledge to help others or the environment in his case.
Would he volunteer to be a guide or could he form a small business and take people on hikes or something related to what he used to do? Does that make sense?
I tend to do the fixing things around the house since I can usually do it and hate paying others for things I can do.
Can you state what he used to do for fun /interests and or what you used to do together? Might help to brain storm.
@deb922 he actually did teach a class for about 20 years at the mid sized university here. Loved it. Only stopped because they cut out all part time faculty at one point.
Maybe I could entice him to take a community college computer class - he has limited computer skills. IF they are having classes - he needs to get on, not do more online stuff! I think this mind stimulation would be good for him.
Part of it is I think in his mind this is what retirement is - the ability to do not so much - but I say just not so much of the time!
Don’t get me wrong he does his ebay stuff HOURS a day, 7 days a week. But that is largely sedentary and it has caused a lot of riff at home because it is ALL he does and he cannot keep it contained to one spot. Plus he doesn’t want to go anywhere because he doesn’t want to miss shipping stuff, etc.
He used to golf. We used to finish furniture together - there is LOTS of furniture in our attic still to be finished - trouble is, he is not motivated to do it anymore and there is really no market for it (if we have one old dining room chair we have 50…)
It doesn’t help (me) that I am super active. I know that it bothers me even more because I always want to be doing something.
Don’t expect you all to help me solve it - but your comments on what your males are doing helps!!!
Could he join a hiking or other outdoor activity group? Or create one starting with his former co-workers?
For charitable activities along these lines, there could be organizations that take underprivileged kids on hikes or camping or such that he could be valuable in helping with. Or any existing scouting-type organization.
I guess you would call it a hobby. Since retiring in December my husband has been enjoying cooking.
I do think many things are limited because of Covid. I hate to suggest something that is online oriented and sedentary since his eBay business has those qualities, but would he be interested in ancestry research? I have had some male friends who have really gotten into that.
My dh runs and belongs to a run group. The members are of various athletic abilities. You said your dh walks - would he be interested in training to run at 5k? There is a Couch to 5k schedule online that paces that. Having a tangible goal might be helpful??
I would like my husband to take up an interest in weeding! Or being a handyman around the house.
We like to travel and go to art museum and eating out at top notch restaurants. All those are out of the picture for the moment.
We had a pleasant week at the Cape where we did a 1-2 hour easy hike, went kayaking and went for a short swim every day. We do crosswords together. There are some board games we like, but lately we’ve been doing them on line with the kids and extended family.
My dh’s Dad used to mentor Boy Scout kids for various merit badges. Less of a time and energy commitment than actually being a leader, but very worthwhile and satisfying. He also had a retirement job declassifying State Department papers which I thought would be fascinating, but of course you had to have worked there first!
Edited to add: DH got a Big Green Egg barbecue in the Spring as a sort of Covid present to himself and has had a great time figuring out how to use it. I’m encouraging him, as while I like to cook, I am kind of sick of it.
I had a long list of hobbies, volunteer work, even some paid stuff, but almost all of it ended with the pandemic. The one thing I have been able to continue is golf, so my former one game a week is now 2 or even 3 games a week, and I will go hit balls sometimes on days I don’t play. It helps that we live on a golf course. It gets me outside and I see some friends. Otherwise I would see nobody except my wife and son.
I thought I would need something to do on rainy days, so 3 or 4 months ago I bought a guitar kit. It still sits untouched on the floor! But I will get around to it someday. 
It’s only seems to be a hobby when men do it. :lol:
@deb922, I am from Michigan & no one in my family hunts! 
To be fair to H, he would be doing a lot more if there wasn’t a pandemic. He golfs, but he just isn’t interested in it right now (it’s not necessary, and he is limiting unnecessary outings). He had planned on volunteering for a local food bank this spring, but he is not doing it due to worries about exposure to Covid19. His parents are in their 90’s, in poor health, and 13.5 hours away. We are both committed to reducing exposure outside our bubble so that we can visit them if they need us.
Maybe other recently retired men are feeling similar worries about going out & about these days.
Possible idea - dog walking at humane society? Or maybe foster one of the dogs. It could be companionship without commitment.
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As an advert LOL? Do they have a MLM for it?
I’ve been through a lot of hobbies over the years, but really the key thing is exactly what we tell our kids going off to college: find your passion.
Anyway, at various points I’ve been into: photography, tennis, martial arts, home audio, woodworking, cars (including driving on a track), MMORPG gaming (team online video games, basically), and now cooking (been cooking since high school, actually) along with playing with home coffee roasting.
I’ve often thought that if I was ever super-bored in retirement I’d start searching meet-up boards and go do a bunch of random stuff until I found something that stuck. Of course that’s really tough right now but maybe something OP can look into for post-covid activities.
And just to respond to someone’s comment about cooking only being a hobby when men do it. I know it was said in jest but I break cooks down into two categories - those who cook just to put a meal on the table, and those who like to experiment, try new things, and seek to continually improve and expand their skills, repertoire and understanding. The latter attitude defines cooking as a hobby for me (and really everything I’ve ever done as a hobby). So while I’ve been cooking for decades, I would really only classify the past 10 or so years for me where it’s become a true hobby.
Nope. Neither.
Sounds like a new puppy or a rescue dog might be something for your H to do right now. It’s time consuming!
But he has a hobby with the eBay thing. So maybe he can expand on this if he enjoys it? If he is not technically inclined and feels he will miss a shipping opportunity does he have a smart phone. He can do it all on that while doing something else. Or an iPad type device?
Personally, to motivate get a bid on redoing the chairs. Tell him your thinking about it. Give him the quote. See if that sparks an interest to tackle the chairs like one a week or so. I hate paying for thing I can do myself. But remember,I hear many say they want their husband to be more handy around the house. Not all guys are. But maybe find something that needs to be fixed then find the you tube on that and ask to watch it together to help you figure it out. Then, just maybe, you can get him to attempt it. Honestly, most fix it jobs I start out like “can’t do it”… Lol… Probably cause I just don’t want to. Then look at some videos and on there they always say “this is much easier then expected… You can do it”… And usually their right.
I am putting in a small flagstone patio for a outside table and chairs. Looked it up online and talked to the people at the stone center. Trust me, this takes time and currently due to weather and my motivation, a never ending project but I am close… Lol…
You stated you don’t do much together. Trust me, I get that. But I would take small steps to change that. Walk after dinner. Maybe a bike ride anywhere. Once he starts to do stuff I think you might see a change. It’s getting the engine moving before the car starts.
I agree with adding you to the equation. The walk after dinner at night might be nice. Physical activity raises moods.
I also agree with adding another dog to the equation–you could perhaps initiate walking or fostering rescue dogs in the evening. That’s lower commitment to owning a new dog but also gets him around a pet and keeps him physically active.