<p>Got it - leanid = female.</p>
<p>Some would suggest that serving others is the most noble and worthy activity there is. It’s what gets me up in the morning.</p>
<p>Sometimes, caring for the happiness of others is also what provides internal happiness.</p>
<p>Solitude is way overrated. Union is the way to go.</p>
<p>“Got it - leanid = female.”</p>
<p>Think again.</p>
<p>O.K., I’m gettin’ a little wigged out here. Don’t tell me a GUY would start an entire thread on bidets and argue compellingly for their use…:eek:</p>
<p>I just found this thread.
I just picked the name as a combination of my two jobs.
Guess I am not too much of a puzzle…
But I sure have enjoyed finding out things about y’all!</p>
<p>(spoken like a true Southerner)</p>
<p>;)</p>
<p>berurah - Learned something about guys, did you? I am gratified to hear you found my bidet argument “compelling”. Have you decided to try them?</p>
<p>I have found myself “misreading” screen names and thus sometimes jumping to the wrong gender identification.
One was mini–who I read as minnie
Another (thought I had gender right, I still picture her carrying shopping bags through the city) was “hereshoping” that I originally read as “here shopping” :).</p>
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Actually, no. My showering skills seem to be more than adequate. 
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<p>Edited out the TMI in order to respect the sensitivities of m&sdad!</p>
<p>Berurah,</p>
<p>Too much information!!! </p>
<p><fingers in=“” ears!=“”> </fingers></p>
<p>“La, La, La!”</p>
<p>berurah - Glad to hear that, lol, but we do not always shower or bathe immediately after heeding nature’s call, do we?</p>
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I’m not familiar with your habits, leanid.</p>
<p>I should be very suprised if you were! I am speaking for our fellow man.</p>
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That would be “covering eyes,” now, wouldn’t it? <em>lol</em></fingers></p>
<p>And THIS, from the most prominent guy in SA??? C’mon, enough with your faux embarrassment! ;)</p>
<p>Correction. leanid = male; albeit European. I was right the first time.</p>
<p>berurah = gorgeous female (who’ll rip your lungs out if you’re not careful).</p>
<p>Another one I had wrong:</p>
<p>Thought cptofthehouse = male.</p>
<p>Welcome, Ms. Cptofthehouse, to the Driver/Garland club! You’re not from “Joisey” are you?</p>
<p>Berurah wrote:
“And THIS, from the most prominent guy in SA??? C’mon, enough with your faux embarrassment!”</p>
<p>Hey, a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do.</p>
<p>At least no one has mentioned hot flashes yet in this thread…</p>
<p>“albeit European.” – think again – with a proviso that my formative years were spent mostly in Europe and the Middle East.</p>
<p>Have spent the last 28 years in the States (I am an American citizen born in England yet considered native-born to the US because my father was on a diplomatic mission to England, at the time, for the State Department) I have been steeped in the American culture for quite some time – but, as they say – “you can take the boy out of _____ but you cannot take _____ out of the boy.” ; )</p>
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<em>swoooooooooooooning</em></p>
<p>Consider yourself redeemed! ;)</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>< I could better tolerate the whole concept if people stopped pretending it makes for happiness.></p>
<p>It doesn’t. You are absolutely correct, imo. I experienced my share of louses in my twenties, and two severely painful break-ups (I’m the introverted, sensitive type), before I met my sweet, extremely nice-guy husband (and handsome to boot!) By my late twenties, I thought the idea that there was such a thing as a nice guy was a myth.</p>
<p>Maybe because I married late, I don’t buy the couple happiness thing myself. I think only one person can make an individual happy–himself. It should be a well-formed, well though-out, conscious decision to share your life with another person. It can be very difficult. I also think it would help most marriages survive if people learned to stand on their own two feet and learned to supply their own happiness singly before marrying (the 50% divorce rate points to a problem in this area). </p>
<p>I felt exactly as you did for the couple of years prior to meeting my husband. But I do think it’s important to be open to the possibility of meeting a “right” person–just in case! You might find yourself changing your mind! :)</p>
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WUSS. :)</p>