<p>My, a lot of tangents. The original poster, an attorney, did not ask for a debate on legalization nor the medical benefits/faults of pot. He has already had that discussion with his wife, himself and possible others. He asked for advise for his HIGH SCHOOL kid:</p>
<p>PARENTS, PLEASE CONSIDER: </p>
<p>1) randomly check his room & any hiding place in YOUR home, backpack, car, etc. Start this concept at middle school so it won’t seem like the 3rd Reich in High School. </p>
<p>2) lock up the alcohol AND Prescription drugs - -today</p>
<p>3) watch your own consumption, you kids most certainly are . . . if you are drinking 2-4 glasses of wine a night, mostly out of habit, could or should you cut back? For your kids perception? (this was our routine. we woke up. she lost the weight she had been seeking for years.) </p>
<p>4) try to find a counselor that your kid will agree to see. it might take several attempts.</p>
<p>5) Try and convey that this is not purely a victim-less crime for your high school kids. It affects the rest of the siblings, parents, and their friends. There are family embarrassment/problems if they are caught by us, the school or the cops! (Do we tell other family members or close friends if we catch them? Or, do we try to keep this dirty little secrete to ourselves? Will our kids be shunned by family friends if they knew our kids used drugs? Would you let your kids associate with known drug users, including close family friends? etc.) AND, there is a real LOSS of TRUST between parent & child. That takes a long, long time and patience to overcome. But, the kids will have a hard time seeing all this because they are generally normal, self absorbed, “won’t get caught” thinking TEENAGERS. Perhaps reaching out to families in your neighborhood that have experienced the consequences of getting caught will help your child and you.</p>
<p>6) Start a PARENT-to-PARENT website for your school on the school website. This is a forum by which parents agree to be called, emailed, etc., if their kids are seen doing something illegal in their community. It’s up and working in our community after a 17 year old student died from alcohol & RX partying this past year. Fortunately, our state law now support this. The forum says:
"In light of tragic events related to abusing drugs and alcohol, a grassroots movement began. Parents got together to seek solutions. One of the first concepts was to create a forum by which parents could try and create a ‘village’ to better watch our kids. Not to spy or intrude unnecessarily, but to answer this simple but vexing question, “Should someone contact the parents(s) or guardians of a child they witness or strongly suspect doing something illegal or immoral”? This is not an easy question for a parent to answer, even if they are “best of friends”. The fear of a false alarm or potential harm to the family was voiced. And how would such an awkward conversation get started, “Hi, my name is_______<strong><em>and I just wanted to tell you that your kid did</em></strong>_____yesterday……Nonetheless, a prevailing refrain was heard at these meetings, “Yes, I want to know”.”
And then, you sign a release so your kids name and your contact information is posted.</p>
<p>This is tough situation for every household in every community. If there were easy answers, the post wouldn’t have started. </p>
<p>Good luck! I feel for you and every other parent struggling with this.</p>