<p>I have a very Christian and self-described very conservative friend who says he can’t for the life of him understand why gays shouldn’t be allowed to marry. He’s fond of joking that gays “should have to suffer just like the rest of us,” but his serious argument is that forbidding gays from marrying the ones they love is the same as judging them, and you know what Jesus said about judging others. Interesting guy, my friend. I wonder how many conservative Christians believe the same but are afraid to say so. A lot of churches, and most where I live, have a nasty habit of ostracizing people who speak out on issues like this.</p>