Thanks for posting.
Please talk seriously to your parents. Merit aid is not relevant. A cost / budget is.
You may find out you have more or less.
If you only have $30K, you need to remove Rutgers, RPI (unless you qualify for need aid) .and Stevens. Same with Vassar and the UCs (which will be $80K+ in likely all instances)
So in addition to speaking to your parents about budget, find out if you qualify for need aid.
Here’s the Net Price Calculator for Vassar - which has no merit aid. Please have them fill it out - and come back with the findings.
Also, do you plan to take calc next year?
Thanks