I’m a little surprised that you aren’t including W&M more prominently. In many ways, it seems like a really great fit for you. I understand that food is important to you, and if it really is at the top of your criteria list, I hear VT has among the best food in the country, though I suspect you’d have to seek out your people. On the other hand, you can’t throw a candlestick at W&M without hitting a slightly nerdy IR/History major singing a cappella, having just emerged onto the contained campus from a smaller class. Further, it’s only an hour to the east of you, and very safe, both of which I imagine would be welcome by your family. I’d give it another look, especially in light of @lkbtnc’s mention of a new food service provider.
To answer your original question, a few of the more selective schools that I think of in somewhat similar orbits to W&M, or that come up often in threads here: Wake Forest, Washington University in St. Louis, Rice, Emory. Further afield, Carleton, St. Olaf, and Whitman, which I think have all been mentioned already. For not-quite-as-rejective, I’ve seen Miami University in Ohio praised a few times recently.