Did you do the npc for highly selective LACs such as Williams, Amherst? Those schools are incredibly generous and love musicians. For less selective schools agree with Lawrence, Gettysburg and St Olaf but they all have BM degrees which are more selective. Oberlin has a BA in music that is less competitive than the conservatory but I do not know how music opportunities work for non conservatory students. S24 who is a musician also applied to Emory, Macalaster, Geneseo, and Binghamton, all who have BA music programs that are excellent
My S24 is a musician at Williams college and we have been amazed at the opportunities. He has not only been in orchestra and chamber groups but has been invited to play in master classes and the pit orchestra doe both the musical and opera. I am not sure he would have had any of those opportunities if he was at a school where there was a BM music program.