Life is so different for a single mom with one child. My insurance was awful so son was put on college plan. Besides, my insurance would have been hard to use in his state. Who pays for what is fluid. Overtime my son took over everything, just letting me know. For example, he still drives my 2004 Accord. Years ago, I paid for new tires and shipping costs across country a few times. Son is still a grad student, so I am contributing towards his wedding. I like to think he knows I’ll have his back, financially and emotionally.
I am in total agreement about parents enabling their healthy adult children, paying their expenses when the young adults could afford to. In my area, parents buy fancy cars and houses for their children.