When I mentioned enabling, I could have said promoting a sense of entitlement. For example, my 20 y.o. Patient refused an Accord and his family got him a car way more $$$ than anything I would drive. Others live at home with their parents into their 30’s, without contributing rent or having chores. That is just 2 examples from the past week.
This is a far cry from a young person willing to live with roommates but be in NYC for a job, or be in grad, medical, law school, or join the Peace Corps (sons close friend). Nor the person joining a nonprofit or beginning a career as an artist, writer, etc. As a parent, I’d happily help out my child to find their way and take productive steps to,further their path.