<p>While it’s only 11PM here in the midwest, where D2 lives it is now past midnight, and that makes me officially a mom of no more teenagers (it’s her 20th birthday). Ugh… I’m getting old. I knew parents on here could appreciate my sentiments.</p>
<p>I can! My youngest turned 20 four months ago and it was like “no more teenagers!” Yikes. But I find each stage of parenting is interesting. Teri, we are NOT getting old! (even if they are)</p>
<p>Happy Birthday to your D!</p>
<p>When talking to D1 earlier this week, she was the one who commented on her sister’s impending birthday, “Mom, you’re getting old.” </p>
<p>If only I could have canceled that Valentine’s Day gift I’d sent her!</p>
<p>At what point do we get to say to them (especially the oldest ones), well, if I’m getting older, it must be because you are, too.</p>
<p>I am looking forward to the milestone when we stop supporting them financially.</p>
<p>Happy birthday to your D. </p>
<p>My D1 will turn 20 this year too, but I still have a D2 5 years younger.</p>
<p>LOL, me too Oldfort. Sometimes I get the feeling that little milestone will never happen. DS in grad school has suggestions for family vacations going out at least 10 years and I keep asking when the switch over in who pays happens!</p>
<p>I know how you feel. DD turned 20 in October. No more teenagers, no more children. All now young adults. And now S1 is having his 10 year HS reunion! Now THAT is making me feel old(er). Even more so than S2 getting married later this year. </p>
<p>However, S3 is still living at home so it FEELS like a teenager still here, even though he is not one anymore.</p>
<p>so tell me why we can remember the day they were born like it was yesterday, but we can’t remember something that actually happened yesterday!</p>
<p>Here’s what’s scary about getting old: My S1 is 24 years old. Of course I remember his birth like it was yesterday. Now, flip it forward: I imagine 24 years from now – yipes. He’ll be 48, and I’ll be – ummmmmm, a very high number.</p>
<p>Yes, I’ve pondered the fact that I am closer in years to being the grandmother of a newborn than the mother of a newborn.</p>
<p>I passed average age of first being a grandma long ago. I’m counting years to pension.</p>
<p>Mine milestone happened a few days ago - at Old Navy. I was purchasing a pair of jeans for my 13 year old (well, almost 14) and realized they were the size my H gets. It made me feel old, really. No more boy clothes :(</p>
<p>Our girls are 20 and 23 and yes, it is very strange not having a teenager. I often have to stop myself when I start to say something about the “teenagers”. </p>
<p>What is really odd to us is that older D has graduated, is working, has applied to graduate schools for the fall, is making trips by herself to visit those she’s been accepted by so far, etc. My H said it is just so strange that we are not a part of this decision in any way, shape, or form. She selected the schools without our input, applied without us reading the essays, paid all the application fees herself, is making the visits by herself, and will decide where to go without our opinion. We always told her that we would help her with graduate school, but with the $$$ packages she has been offered, she isn’t going to need our help (whew!). Guess that is what we work so hard all these years for - to develop independent, thinking human beings! </p>
<p>Younger D is thinking of medical school so if that comes to pass she won’t be “off the dole” for years!!</p>
<p>I only agree with the, “ugh I am getting old” part LOL</p>
<p>I don’t really think 20 is all that significant. 21 is very significant.
Just because 20 is not “something-teen” doesn’t mean that much to me, just as I don’t think “thirteen” is any more significant than twelve. (Unless of course you are a Bar/Bat mitzvah ) Fifteen/sixteen, then you are a real teenager.</p>
<p>hmmm… better ask me again next month when S2 turns 20…</p>
<p>Teri - happy birthday to your daughter!</p>
<p>Agreed. Happy Birthday, Teri! Your daughter’s birthday - but you did all the birthing work, so you should get the credit. 
I feel very old since I am now way past menopause (though still more than a year shy of 50), and kids are both in college and out of the house. Sigh! Miss them little buggers! ;)</p>
<p>One and only turns 21 next month. He is truly launched: out of state internships last summer and this, a semester overseas…but he still calls when confronted with a sudden problem. I usually can’t help and he works it out, but I really like that he calls me. That will probably change soon, too. And that will be another milestone of sorts.</p>
<p>Mine turns 20 next July. Additionally, it’s my 25th Wedding Anniversary this May. Double whammy for feeling old!</p>
<p>Midwest, we did that last year - really strange - and the few comments we offered were <em>not</em> accepted well. OTOH, she is paying for it all herself. Guess that means we have been succesful?
We still have half a year as parents of a teen… gad, I never thought I would find that a catagory I would miss!</p>
<p>(cue music)
'…sunrise, sunset, swiftly fly the years
one season following another, laden with happiness and tears…</p>
<p>when did she get to be a beauty, when did he grow to be so tall?
wasn’t it yesterday when they were small?"…</p>
<p>The dang song always made me cry, even BEFORE I had kids. Now, it kills me.</p>
<p>Mine DS one and only turned 20 two weeks ago. I was happy and sad all that day. Part of me wanted a shirt that screamed “I survived the teenage years”. The other part of me was desperately trying to remember all the details of his birth day that long ago.</p>