@HImom , I’m sure my clogs with go well with my burka! 
I prefer SAS walking shoes. They go with all my jeans and slacks. Haven’t worn them with anything else. Lol! ;
I am NOT a fashion plate but fortunately have no bunions, back or foot problems and can walk miles comfortably.
I’m thinking @HImom that you will have to do some compromising on the shoes!
I’ve been loosely looking at shoes. I’ll have two pair…one for the ceremony, pictures, and the beginning of the reception. The second pair will be the comfort shoes for dancing…and the rest of the evening.
@thumper1, ah but by the time my kids find the perfect partners, there will be amazing shoes, comfortable, affordable and fabulous at great prices. :))
Yes, evidently this MOB paid twice what the brides dress cost – and she refused to show MOG a picture.
They are both wearing black as the wedding party is wearing “Porter Black” --whatever that is…
My own D is marrying this September. She “took the money”
Wow half my post was lost–
D is having 22 and happy hour and dinner in Oregon,
The next week 100 for a dance party in Boston.
FSIL has bartered services for venues and food. He is a
architect and has contracts.
I am wearing Eileen fisher pants and tank and yet to be purchased flowing jacket.
Fall jewel tones.
I hope MOG wears what ever she loves.
Think Oregon vs Boston. I just want us both to feel good and comfortable…
I can’t get over the feeling that large amounts of lace or beading at a wedding should be on the bride. As pretty as many of the lace overlay dresses may be…it just seems like they’d be competition with the bride’s dress. I’m referring to those particular dresses which clearly shout out LACE, not the ones with a bit on the bodice or bottom.>>>>>>
It’s a good thing you weren’t at my son’s wedding this weekend then. LOL. My dress was cobalt blue long lace overlay. The bride was in satin with zero lace in front, and some elegant lace work in the back. She approved my dress, by the way. I got tons of compliments. I sure as heck didn’t feel in competition with her whatsoever.
Well, the navy lace Vera Wang doesn’t fit in any size. I have a very broad back (swimmer in my youth) and while my regular size fits or is large everywhere else, I can’t zip it up. I’ll be returning it today and continuing my search.
@runnersmom you may ask with your body shape, what style would work best with minimal alteration while looking fab on you. Maybe the fabric is key. IDK.
Congrats @oregon101 - the plans sound perfect for the couple and fit the family circumstances.
IMHO the wedding celebration should not be stress filled. Seems finding a MOB dress or good shoes that work for comfort and look are stressing out some MOB/MOG. I got my dress early specifically to eliminate some stress; also got DD to get the bridesmaids dresses going, and two of the three ended up in stock so the third dress is similar to MOH - all full length navy, all fit the gals, and they are all happy (and all reasonably priced). A friend’s DD is getting married in 2 weeks and has 10 bridesmaids - oh my, all I can think of is the drama and stress (although most if not all went to pharmacy school with the bride).
Saw where Neiman Marcus is having designer sale through 6/4. Doesn’t hurt to browse…
Free shipping. Seems to have a varied selection on dresses for more formal and less formal.
Excuse me while I laugh hysterically for a few minutes and then cry uncontrollably for half an hour.
As far as I’m concerned, “wedding planning” and “stress” are synonyms.
I don’t remember planning my wedding as being particularly stressful. We got married on campus, had the reception at the faculty club, we just had a best man and matron of honor. I told my MOH what my flowers looked like and what my dress looked like and told her to wear whatever she thought would look good. The guys wore tuxes. The people we shared the house with were ushers. A friend who played with an early music group volunteered to have them play at our reception. My shower was a few friends going out for brunch and getting a waffle iron they all chipped in on. You don’t have to have a $40,000 wedding and several pre-events.
I saw photo’s of VaBluebird’s wedding - I don’t think they took away from the bride’s thunder at all. She looked great, and the bride looked stunning and radiant and all those bridely things! LOL.
I don’t recall my wedding as being particularly stressful, seriously. 1000+ were invited and about 750 attended. I and H planned all that was important to us and it worked out just fine.
Well, I brought home this dress:
http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447102399&R=884922892420&P_name=Badgley+Mischka&Ntt=badegly+mischka&N=0&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306418048&bmUID=lNwDftY
and have this one on order:
https://www.shopspring.com/products/53239887?gclid=CjwKEAjw07nJBRDG_tvshefHhWQSJABRcE-Z6q6d_IEtW6BQCIOga-7a0c2KPRs-J9-B3XHjXHzsqRoC9n3w_wcB
I also found a very wearable back-up if these do not work:
https://www.macys.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-jersey-off-the-shoulder-gown?ID=4562529&pla_country=US&CAGPSPN=pla&CAWELAID=120156340014138562&CAAGID=19649475061&CATCI=pla-67639556536&catargetid=120156340003053824&cadevice=c&cm_mmc=Google_Womens_PLA--RTW+Womens_Vince+Camuto±+GS_Vince+Camuto+Dresses--77183868901-_-pg49991_c_kclickid_81f1eb97-07b4-4f81-8768-a1cd6414d118&trackingid=424x49991&gclid=CjwKEAjw07nJBRDG_tvshefHhWQSJABRcE-Z3qgvMk6n-_wq1g_IlNcTuZ1_kETWror9sAcUUmf-tBoCVmLw_wcB
I prefer the fabric on the first two, but I suspect my H may not like the ruffle on #2. #1 looks amazing on me, and only needs to be shortened. I need to try it on with the right underthings, but it feels special (though expensive, I know).
And as for stress-free wedding planning, in our house that would be the definition of an oxymoron.
I like #1and 3, @runnersmom. I have trouble with ruffles as they tend to be uncooperative on laying the way you’d want them too.
runnersmom, those are beautiful! Simple and elegant. I love #2.
I like all three of them. You will need really to see how they work with shoes and right undergarments of course. An off shoulder look is not something everyone can pull off well.
Those are very pretty dresses. I know I’m having trouble looking at pictures…because I’m 5’ 4" tall and sort of normal weight. The models are 6 feet tall…and thin.
I have one off the shoulder dress in my growing collection of options for DD’s wedding…and I’m not sure I think it will be comfortable for dancing and moving around. But I’m going to take thee suggestion of a friend…and wear it around my house for an hour or so and see.
One of the options I was considering was a gorgeous off the shoulder dress. Loved it. But, I did wear it around the house for awhile and tried dancing in it and I had to keep adjusting the shoulders when I put my arms up and down, even to just hug someone. Decided it would annoy me (and the bride vetoed due to color), so sadly returned it. H was thrilled to see it go–one of the more expensive ones I tried!
Well, I’m not 6’ tall, and definitely not slim - think 5’6" and reasonably normal weight with a larger than average bust and that bloody overdeveloped back! What I do have are great shoulders (also due to the swimming - mixed blessing), and the ability to wear heels easily, even high ones, so I can add some artificial height! #1 is very well constructed and actually has a control slip built into the dress, but it was very comfortable. I hear all the concerns about off the shoulder and will definitely try to wear both those options and move, dance etc. before making a final decision. I actually love the one-shoulder with the ruffle, but I’m pretty sure my H will veto that one. He’s all about simplicity.
My mother is actually sending me the dress my grandmother wore to my mother’s wedding and my mother wore to my sister’s wedding. It’s navy and vintage and completely unlikely to fit me, but it would be pretty special if it could work.