<p>"Just"aMom:</p>
<p>Hey, I know the assistant director at the Santa Monica College department that works with the transfer students. SMC has an outstanding record in this regard. Interestingly, the guy I know is a UCLA alum, played soccer there.</p>
<p>Hopefully she is still waiting to hear from other schools. Since she has the stats, it’s very possible she will still get into one of the great schools that don’t announce until the end of the month.</p>
<p>I peaked at your earlier posts and see DD has applied to out of state schools. I think the gods want her to see another part of the world.</p>
<p>When I was at UC Davis there was a certain subset of the new students each year that could be classified under the heading of I’m-Here-at-Davis-Only-Because-I-Didn’t-Get-Into-Berkeley. And nearly all of them showed up with big plans to transfer into their Berkeley dream school as soon as they could. But in all my years there I saw only one of them actually transfer. The rest all fell in love with Davis and had a wonderful time and got a great education. After their freshman year it was “Berkeley who?” “UC Berkeley? What’s that?”</p>
<p>It will likely be the same with UCLA. The rejection hurts right now, but time and circumstance has a way of smoothng these hurts out.</p>
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<p>I disagree, Batlio. This is the same kid whose parents were so proud of her accomplishments a day earlier – and still are. She has done nothing to disappoint them. If anyone has disappointed them, it is UCLA, which turned down the application of a terrific kid with wonderful grades and scores. As the dad himself noted, he probably would not have been accepted if he was applying this year.</p>
<p>No matter how disappointed we are FOR our kids, I think it is very important that they understand we are not disappointed IN or WITH them as a result of a college admission decision. In the long run, a kid will benefit from a parent being reassuring and expressing confidence in a child’s future success, no matter where he or she goes to school. Feeling responsible for a parent’s disappointment and pain makes the situation so much harder for a kid. (An adult friend of mine noted that telling her parents she had a miscarriage was almost as painful as her own grief at losing the baby, since she knew her parents felt so badly for her.)</p>
<p>As sad as this is for our kids, we can sincerely hope this is the biggest and worst heartbreak they ever have to deal with in their lives. If it is, they will indeed have led charmed lives.</p>
<p>whatever4-the disappointment I’m referring to is the “dream” the family fostered by their participation in Bruin activities and hopes for her acceptance into UCLA. The disappointment is she won’t be fulfilling their desires for a second generation Bruin. At no time did I mean to imply they are disappointed in their daughter. She obviously did her best but this a brutal year for all hopefuls. They seem to be a close family and will weather this fine.</p>
<p>My friend’s D did not get into UCLA when she applied a few years back. There were big cuts at the UC schools that year and although she had the stats she didn’t get in. She was devastated as all her life she had wanted UCLA. In the end she entered USC with enough APs and summer classes to be a sophomore and went there one year and transferred to UCLA and graduated from there in two more years. As much as she wanted to go to UCLA her mom said that she was always rather mad the school and how she had to get there.</p>
<p>My daughter thought Columbia was her dream school - NYC, hip people, not as cold as other schools. The worst part was everyone thought she was a shoo-in, including her GC, and everyone knew she applied there. She is at Cornell now - it’s in the middle of nowhere, cold as h<em>ll, it’s huge - a place she only applied because we (immediate and extended) talked her into it. She even said there was no way in h</em>ll she would ever go there. She fell in love with Cornell the first week - the location, the gorge, students, Greek life (she wouldn’t have that at Columbia), less worrying (nagging) from mom. The experience she would of had at Columbia would have been completely different. </p>
<p>Our D1 really believes in fate now. I think it’s also because she has met a nice young man at her school. On paper, she had the credential to get into Columbia, but for whatever reason it didn’t happen. Knowing how happy she is at Cornell now, she just couldn’t imagine why she wanted to go to Columbia in the first place. If you were to ask her what advice she would give to any senior now, she probably would say, “If you have done all you can, then just go with the flow, you never know what’ll turn up around the corner. It may be better than what you have originally hoped for.”</p>
<p>I 100% agree with oldfort…a similar thing happened to my D. Applied to favorite school, got in, hated it, transferred out after a year…You never really know.</p>
<p>And I still support the concept of hitting up a great CC and following the transfer track if this works for the student.</p>
<p>I would ask your Daughter’s High School counselor to call the Admissions Office in order to:</p>
<p>1) Find out why she wasn’t accepted; and
2) Plead her case to have them reconsider her.</p>