<p>No children don’t need parents with ph.ds, but it is nice to have parents who have a place that they can get affirmation and strokes, like work.
I don’t see why mothers needs are being seperated from fathers needs
I don’t hear anyone saying men should postpone their work or family life.</p>
<p>We as a society need more family friendly workplaces and policies, that is if we did really value the family as we say we do.</p>
<p>I had one child with whom I had to quit my job as I was on bedrest- and who was born 10 weeks early. I would have been happy to work part time, but child care is very difficult to find, and my husband had such weird hours that it was hard to schedule time to see each other.
I had a second child who had even more issues and I did not feel that I got support from the community or doctors. It got to the point where I was hospitalized several times just so I could get a break. I would hope that if I had waited to marry until I was ready to marry someone for himself, rather than because it was what my family wanted, that I would have chosen someone with whom I had a better fit.
I am not saying that all couples who marry young don’t learn to work it out.</p>
<p>But there is a reason for the high divorce rate in this country.
I learned to settle, to make compromises, but it isn’t happy.</p>
<p>Oh, got it momsdream! Hey, do you know momsdream, I am old enough to be your mother! When you were first sharing about your family I thought about it and it puts you in a very interesting position. Do you feel like a comtemporary of your son./ Obviously someone like yourself has more energy than someone like me, nearly 20 yrs older than you! How has your relationship with your son been affected by having him when you were young? I honestly can think you must have shared some great times due to your youth.</p>
<p>My Dad was so non-involved with domestic duties amd my mom was so resentful that I think #1 on my list for a mate was “cooks, cleans, participates with kids.” I married a divorced dad who (by necessity) did all three. He drives me nuts as he is Felix Unger, LOL! Oh well, he sure cooks & cleans. Lots of compromises no matter what, I suspect.</p>