<p>but I’d be surprised if a husband’s lower earning capacity would necessarily be a strain on the marriage IF he were picking up the slack at home. </p>
<p>=============</p>
<p>But it is a strain when the H is not picking up the slack at home…whether or not he’s earning the same, less, or more.</p>
<p>There still are a good number of working women who literally have 2 jobs…their paid one and their home one…and then their men wonder why these gals are exhausted all the time.</p>
<p>I know that many guys are splitting home duties and that’s great…it’s still frustrating for those women who don’t have H’s who share the home load. Part of the problem (I think) is that these types of guys either don’t really realize how much time/energy is spent on home/child care/social & holiday planning and/or they don’t know how to do these things so their minds minimize the effort.</p>