<p>Several of my female friends divorced because they were tired of carrying all the parenting load as well as working full-time (among other things). </p>
<p>Their spouses DID spend more time & energy with the kids after the divorce. </p>
<p>They have all moved on with their lives and all four of them have remained single, while all of the men shortly thereafter got into new relationships and three of them remarried.</p>
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<p>Yep…have seen that as well here and in So Cal. As for these men spending more time with their kids post-divorce AND getting involved in new relationships/marriages, I’m betting that yes, more time is spent between dad and kids, but the new woman is now carrying the burden of the tasks that the exwife used to do during those visits with dad. It’s not just the “spending time” (which of course is very good), it’s the chore obligations that go along with child-rearing. It’s one thing to sit in the stands and watch Junior play soccer, it’s another to spend hours getting those grass stains out of his uniform later.</p>