<p>Actually, many of these kids are older at the time of the divorce. The kids have very limited interest in retaining their roles with the dads & new partners/spouses but are still very close to their moms.</p>
<p>Have mostly heard and spoke with the moms, so not linked in with the dads. Sad that these kids are pretty distant from the dads. Will see if that changes over time, but doubt it. One of the dads asked grown daughter to describe her ideal wedding (she was describing the wedding SHE was planning with her long-term BF). He went out & HAD exactly that wedding. She was heartbroken & had to change her plan & carried out an entirely different wedding since she felt usurped by her own dad. Another friend has had the new wife & exH tell the kids from marriage 1 that they will NOT be welcome in new household once they turned 18 (both were in late teens). Not surprisingly, they have not had much contact with their dad since then. </p>
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<p>Well, when you consider that the wives divorced these types of guys because they weren’t “pulling their weight” in regards to home responsibilities, that also suggests that these guys never strongly bonded to their own kids. Part of the bonding process for parents is doing the “nitty gritty” for kids…making their special meals, caring for them when they’re sick, holding them when they’re upset or scared.</p>