Only reason I didn’t get navy was it was so dark it looked almost black–if it was a brighter navy I’d have worn it.
I’ll be a MOB in August. I truly don’t care what the MOG wears. Wear what you look good in and don’t worry about it. There is enough variation in human bodies that even if you were to show up in the exact same dress, you’d look very different.
Also, in the bridal magazines I’ve been browsing, it appears that a current trend is for many people in the bridal party to wear variations on the same color theme. So if you stick to your dress, you’ll be hip and trendy!
Both of my daughters’ future mothers-in-law picked their dresses before I did. The only thing that annoyed me slightly was that the first one was poking me to look sooner than I was ready. I made it clear that as long as she didn’t wear the same as the bridesmaids or white, I would be happy to let her choose first. So she did.
I think something in the dark blue family would be lovely together with the MOG’s dress and the bridesmaids. It’s also a neutrally color in my opinion. I wouldn’t necessarily wear a dress that had a very similar color that wasn’t neutral, but blue?
Add me to the list of those who can’t imagine why you wouldn’t wear the dress you like.
For heaven’s sake, neither mother would rationally lay claim to an entire color family! Blues are always slightly different. And if they are actually the same–so what?
I’m getting married this summer and I can’t imagine telling either my mom or FH’s mom to return a dress that they love! (Unless it was white, of course). I actually don’t understand what the problem is based on the OP - why can’t your color work with the rest? I told my mom that our colors were light pink, light blue, and navy, so she was looking for navy but ended up with one that was royal blue. I consider it a non-issue. Can you talk to the bride and groom to get their opinions on what they think? Not presenting it as a problem, just “I found this dress and love it, what do you guys think.” It’s their wedding. I’d be uncomfortable with either of our parents running the show on who should wear what.
My DD told me and the MOG to get whatever we wanted as long as we were comfortable. TBH, I seriously doubt anyone will care what I wear. I’m not the center of attention that day.
Having said that, I wanted to blend in in the pictures. In our May wedding…if I had chosen navy (and I had two navy dresses), I would have looked like a dark blot in all the pictures because everyone else is wearing much lighter colors.
I hope the OP clarifies…did this other mom tell her to NOT wear the dress she chose…or is the OP just concerned?
I was in the same situation last year: I was MOG trying to find a dress that didn’t clash with royal blue bridesmaid gowns, and the MOB (who traditionally has “first choice”) had already chosen navy --which would have been my preference. I ended up with an “ink blue” gown–medium-dark, greenish-blue (more blue than green). It worked. Though it would’ve been fine, I think, if both moms had worn navy. We’re very different body types/styles. And MOB is a very relaxed/casual person, not picky about etiquette. I guess I just wanted to be respectful of tradition (in case anyone cared/noticed), and deferential to MOB. Another color I liked was a grayish/purplish medium blue. OP-- I would just ask MOB if she minds if you wear navy. She probably won’t.
This reminds me of an out-of-town wedding I went to a few years back - daughter of friend of DH. I had lost a lot of weight and fell in love with a purple bandage dress at TJ Maxx. Arrived at the wedding and discovered it was the exact same shade as the bridesmaids dresses (and the six of them had three different styles). The photographer clearly kept wondering how I fit into the wedding party. A bit embarrassing but what could I do?
Now my wedding - I sent a bunch of swathes in a bunch of tones in the teal shade and asked both mothers to see if they could find something in that range. My mom called in tears from a phone booth outside a shopping mall in the pouring rain claiming absolutely the only dress she could find was white - would that be OK? So…my mother wore white to my wedding.
MIL turned up in a navy blue dress and kept bragging about how she was the mother who met my requirements. 8-|
My son is getting married next year. It sounds like it will be a bigger and more formal wedding than we usually do (my daughter’s was a beach wedding - shorts and Capris and she wanted her Dad in his normal overalls - that about sums up our family really 
). I hope to goodness I can wear pants of some sort - I haven’t worn a dress in years and really don’t want to! (but of course I will do whatever makes the bride happy - it’s her day)
Boy I thought I was going to have to come on this thread and deal with a bunch of racists, but I guess we’re talking dresses…
^ I can’t even figure out how you could read a logical racist statement in the title.
If I were going to suggest anything, I’d suggest MOB and MOG agree on the length, as long as they aren’t wearing exactly the same dress, I wouldn’t have a problem with the color being the same. I’d double check with the bride. In any event Navy and Midnight Blue aren’t the same right?
I wore a midnight blue dress to my nephew’s wedding. I thought it was too close to black, but I liked the dress and it definitely did not look funeral in style so I stuck with it. I am not in a single picture the photographer took, (which I must say irritated me), so I didn’t ruin any photos!
slight segueway but related - in England there id usually a big group picture taken of all the attendees at the wedding. I was surprised at the few weddings I have been to here that the pictures tend to be just the wedding party (bride/groom/bridesmaids, groomsmen) and family. Not everyone.
I rather like the English way.
I am solidly a blue person. For D’s wedding, I wore a short cobalt blue dress. Guys were in navy suits and bridesmaids were in a lighter blue. We all blended well together. MOG isn’t fashion-conscious person. I told MOG to wear whatever color or style she was comfortable in. She wore black pants, some sort of top, and a nice shawl. It worked.
@swimcatsmom …we did at my D’s wedding…photographer assembled all 250 on steps of building next to church…was great fun!
I think that is lovely @gosmom
@swimcatsmom - I think that @oregon101 wore pants to the wedding of her D. She might have some good ideas for you.
We walked from our wedding venue (a walled olive grove on the Caltech campus) to the Caltech Atheneum (faculty club) each person holding a helium balloon. My favorite picture of the wedding is when we stopped about half way along and got a picture of all of us. I also asked the photographer to make sure he got a picture of every table while everyone was seated before the dancing started. I don’t think we missed anyone.
I’m sensing you don’t feel comfortable broaching the subject of whether yours would be okay? I mean, unless it is the exact same dress, I don’t see that anyone would even notice much.
H’s sister discovered that her dress matched the bridesmaids right before traveling long distance to S’s wedding-- too late to get another dress (plus she is on a tight budget, so…) She accented it (royal blue dress) with a long red/print scarf, which helped distinguish her from the bridesmaids. I thought that was a clever solution.