The bride’s attendants will be in a royal blue and the mother of the bride is wearing indigo. The bride showed me a photo and it looked a rich blue/purple color so I bought midnight blue. However, I spoke to the mom today and she says it looks Navy which is very close to midnight so I’ll return mine, but dang it, it fit sooo well!
My coloring is very pale (I’ve had a skin cancer so I avoid the sun) and I look like death in gray/brown (traditional mog-wear). Are there any other colors I dare consider without alienating the bride’s mom? We both have young-ish figures.
I’m so bummed,I really loved the fit of that dress. It showed off my figures without being tight!
Do you have to wear different colors? The MOB and I both wore navy to our kids’ wedding. The styles were different but complimentary and looked very nice in the few pictures we were in together.
Did anyone ask you to return your dress or get another color? I’d keep it and wear it happily and proudly. Sounds lovely! I’m a fan of many shades of blue and think it looks great on many.
I say keep it too! It’s a wedding - such a happy occasion! Who wants to wear grey or brown?!
Her idea of navy may not actually be navy. I mean, there SO many blues - maybe saying “it’s navy” is just a generalization. If you love your dress don’t give it up so easily!
The mother of the bride and I (MOG) both wore navy blue dresses with some sparkly touches. Hers was long, mine was knee length. Hers had a pretty wrap (those darned upper arms), mine was sleeveless ( a year of pushups!). Hers was flowy, mine was not. All they had in common was the color. We were comfortable and beautiful and did not look like a matched set. Wear whatever dress you love!
Kep the dress. If you have time and are close enough geographically to the MOB, have a meet-up and compare the dresses in the lighting you expect for the wedding. The two blues might not be incompatible at all.
MOB and I both wore the same color to S’s wedding, DIL suggested it. When one of the newly engaged bridesmaids saw our complementary gowns, she said she was going to suggest a common color to her mother and MIL. Show FDIL the dress and ask her opinion.
Another vote for keeping it! I bet that you and the other mom will look sufficiently different without the need for color to differentiate you. Wouldn’t the kids be able to recognize their own mom?
My future DIL has requested that her Mom and I wear the same color or at least from the same color family. She sent me a Pinterest link with a swatch of a color family. I ordered a bunch of dresses in various shades of the color and picked one. Wedding is in September and I haven’t shown the bride or her Mom my dress. I like the dress and I’m not interested in searching for something else. Navy would have been my first choice but the bridesmaids are wearing navy and I was asked to not wear navy. I’m wearing a plum color.
At the weddings I’ve been to over the last several years the MOB and MOG have worn the same color dress. Or they have worn dresses that are totally different from each other leading me to believe that they were each told to wear what you feel good in.
If you love your dress I wouldn’t worry about the colors being similar.
My son in law’s Mom found a dress soon after the kids announced their engagement (literally months before I did). She promptly emailed a picture of the dress to my D and me…stating that she had planned to wait until I found one, but this dress caught her eye when she was shopping with a friend. She made it very clear that she would have no problem if either my D or I would rather she not wear the dress and could easily return it. The dress met with my D’s approval and was in a color that made me look like death, so it was a go. Communication helped ease a number of stressful wedding details. Email a picture and ask them…
I guess I’m of the opinion there are tons of dresses to choose from. Why start off on the wrong foot with DIL and her mom? If it was me, I’d just keep looking. Perhaps tell them you will keep searching, but you are keeping the original dress just in case you have problems finding anything. Do you have a link to the dress for us to see? Did you talk to DIL and get her opinion?
I was the mother of the bride back in September. A few months before the wedding, the mother of the groom e-mailed me to ask whether I planned to wear a long dress or a short one. I told her short (it was a daytime wedding). I did not tell her the color.
We both showed up in dark blue dresses. Nobody cared.
When D was married we both felt the moms should wear whatever they liked. I wore a short dress and SIL’s mom wore a long dress. We wore colors we liked. No one cared.
