Mother’s Day; how is it going? My flowers arrived already wilted
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Freedom to buy the plants/flowers I like and the time to plant them that’s all I’ve ever wanted on Mother’s Day. 
Seriously, I’m low-key on “holidays”. I might see my son and DIL who are in town. My 2 girls are spending the weekend entertaining our (H and I’s) best friends who drove 4.5 hours to see them - they are not parents - it makes me SOO happy to know they all have this wonderful relationship together. That’s a gift. 
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Nice to get flowers though!
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I’m sure your flowers cost a lot this year, so I’d consider calling the florist and complaining. They should bring a fresh bouquet. You don’t have to tell your son.
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Yes, if only they were alive. I’ve told my kids not to send flowers, for just this reason.
Still, at least I’ll have company for tomorrow
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Exactly what I did. Farmgirlsflowers isn’t open yet, but I left a message.
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Make sure you get a time stamped photo of them - they will know when they were delivered and can then see that arrived DOA!
DH just left for the grocery store so that means that he’s shopping for me!
I always get breakfast and bed and then a FaceTime with the boys. Mother’s Day weekend is always the same weekend of ds1’s big college reunion so how much of him I get and what shape he’s in varies from year to year. 
I think ds2 might be in Alabama, but I’m not sure. At least his gf is. But dh does a good job of arranging a time for them to call in together so I assume this year will be no different.
I think I’ve told this before and it’s why I always give this advice to people on cc. My first Mother’s Day, ds1 was literally weeks old. I waited all day for dh to do something for me, and when night fell and he clearly did nothing, I told him that this had been a big mistake and that every year from here on out I expected something – breakfast in bed, flowers, a gift, whatever. And every year since then I’ve got all the things, including now calls from the boys. That was really difficult for me as I hated confrontation and I sure didn’t think that I had to tell my dh that his wife who just because a mother expected some acknowledgment of that fact. But I did, and it’s why I say that sometimes you have to ask for what you want, even if you think they should know without being told.
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My husband doesn’t get me anything for Mother’s Day but my sons usually do. One out of town son will be here tomorrow. The other out of town son with his wife and my new grandson will be here next weekend. I did send my DIL a card and gift hor her first Mother’s Day.
Happy Mother’s Day to all!
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Not a big deal here, but have already received a handmade gift from one child and a donation made in my name to a cause I support from another. Feeling sad for a friend who is still grieving her mother’s death and finds all the “mother publicity” difficult.
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We are packing to leave for vacation tonight. We fly tomorrow, but have to be at the airport at 4am and it’s 1:30 away.. hence, leaving tonight and spending the night at an airport hotel.
H’s suitcase was unusually overpacked, so I started messing with it and felt something. Hmm. I asked if he was planning to give me the gifts tomorrow, let’s just do them today. I don’t want to waste suitcase space! And we used to celebrate on Saturdays anyway.
The kids got me some nice low key gifts (that I like). Younger S and GF each sent a card with a super sweet letter/note. They are keepers.
But honestly, one of my best “gifts?” Both kids and FDIL/GF are going to a baseball game together. The fact they all like each other and are doing something fun together is just the best I could ask for 
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Son sent card and will video call tomorrow. Husband suggested breakfast out and we’ll be taking a harbor walk shortly.
Son is volunteering at a neighborhood farmers market and ran into this photo op. I should have picked this year to visit! I could have had a picture with a pony!
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#1D works on Sundays, so she, her sister, and the grandpug are coming over today for lunch.
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On my first Mother’s Day, eldest was about 6 weeks old. I happened to be sick as a dog (wondering how single mothers ever survive the early years). My husband whisked off the baby for a little daytrip, a bit of a risk since she had not taken a bottle since the sugar water at the hospital. I took a long nap, grateful for his help! There was probably a card and flowers too, which he does every year. But what I really remember appreciating was NOT having the baby in the house.
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I received an invitation asking for confirmation for a Mother’s Day Brunch at a nice local country club - guess I’ll accept! Only 1 of my 3 sons lives here, so can figure out who sent it.
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The only thing I know for sure is that dh is making a late morning breakfast - bourbon French toast casserole, bacon and scrambled eggs. Two of my four kids are home, my nephew as well as older son’s GF are here for the weekend.
I came home from work today to beautiful tulips from dh.
The only thing I ever ask for are four hanging baskets for my front porches that I will go pick out tomorrow. I actually don’t care if my kids give gifts or not - as long as I hear from them, that’s all I care about (plus my birthday is always a week or so after Mother’s Day and they always give me gifts).
We usually have my parents over for dinner but they just got back from a Viking River Cruise on the Rhine so they are recovering from the traveling (my father turns 90 in two weeks!). I’m going over on Monday with a gift for my mom and to hear about their trip.
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DD#1 works on Sundays so don’t know if she’ll call tomorrow or not. Her MIL has already posted on FB about her sons and her perfect DIL. Daughter was talking about her last week and how sad it was they couldn’t go visit her for the day (she lives 4 hours away) even though they just saw her 3 weeks ago. Barf. At the same time daughter never said anything about mother’s day to me, her actual mother.
DD#2 is going to a play with me tomorrow afternoon, A Gentleman’s Guide to Love and Murder. She asked if that’s what I wanted and I said yes. She may take me to lunch or dinner, or maybe we’ll meet up with her husband somewhere. Or maybe not. The play is enough.
It’s never been that big of a deal to me. They’d bring stuff home from daycare or school, and that was about it unless we did something with my mother. No one ever took them to buy things for me. What I don’t want is flowers that have to be planted! I’ve done a ton of yard work this week and don’t want to do any more!
My friend’s MIL is 102 and lives next door. Right on schedule, her SIL called and said she was sending flowers to mother and could friend’s husband/her brother be sure to watch for them and then go next door and put the flowers in a vase. This drives my friend crazy. Just sent an arrangement or send the flower stems to brother’s house (it is NEXT DOOR) so he can deal with them on his schedule, or better yet, send him money so he can get the flowers at Safeway on Friday and get them to mother. Nope, she sends the flowers and causes more work.
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I’m staining the cabin porch tomorrow. Pretty sure DS won’t know what day it is (he doesn’t know our birthdays either), but DIL may prompt him to call. DH knows not to give me flowers (waste of money, they just die). I prefer to be treated well every day and skip the Hallmark holidays.
We’re in Maine for the summer, so I’m missing both Mother’s Day and my mom’s BD next week. We took her out to dinner the night before we left to celebrate both, but I’ll call her tomorrow.
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I have never been a big fan of Mother’s Day. When I became a mother, my own mother and my mother-in-law thought the day was still only about them. We tried to be fair and spent Mother’s Day with my parents and Father’s Day with my in-laws. It didn’t work, they were still in fierce competition about who we spent more time with and caused me stress every single year.
My daughter will be visiting me next week which is fine. I don’t need to be with her on the actual day. My husband asked if I wanted anything for Mother’s Day and I said no. I really don’t want anything.
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I’m not a fan of MD.
First, I am very aware of how it impacts so many (infertile couples, birth moms who have placed a child for adoption, those who are grieving the loss of a child or children, etc).
Second, my mother is similar to some who have been described above (I.e., my mother still assumes the holiday is all about her, and not me or my MIL, etc.)
Third, my MIL has always so lovingly sent me cards (and often beautiful gifts) to me for Mother’s Day (unnecessary, but yes, compared to my mother’s approach of not even wishing me a happy day each year, my MIL definitely shines and makes me feel loved and special in contrast).
My kids when they were teens would make me breakfast in bed which was a special treat .
I love my boys and all I want is truly for them to be happy and healthy and kind to all.
I don’t like Hallmark holidays either as one of you aptly put it! 
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