<p>"Geesh, you guys are cynical.
Don’t you have any adult children whom you would like to see in a relationship? "</p>
<p>Loving to see one’s offspring in a relationship isn’t the same as advertising for romantic partners for them.</p>
<p>Hanna-
This is now national news- and there are a lot of media hounds. If some girl/girls respond to the mom’s request and go out with the son, dont ya think if he is gay this will become evident and one of them will come running to the media? They probably will be a bit non-plussed.</p>
<p>"They say you can tell what kind of a husband your man will be by the way he treats his mother. "</p>
<p>IMO, looking at how your man’s FATHER treats his mother will probably give you a better picture of how your man will act as a husband.</p>
<p>I don’t think he’s gay, but I doubt he’s much of a “catch” either. He “sounds” like the typical Peter Pan. Note that mom isn’t looking for a wife for him–just somebody who wants a “long term relationship” a/k/a sex. Why should any young woman with half a brain be interested in a 31 year old guy who is still in school getting a master’s degree in sports management–a degree made for Peter Pan–and reading not all that much between the lines, isn’t interested in marriage? </p>
<p>And, all the “assets” mom says he has are superficial. Sounds like someone you’d bring to an office party, not fall in love with. There’s nothing about compassion or honesty or any other personal quality. It’s all about superficial things. It’s interesting that she says she wants someone who is “driven” for him because he certainly doesn’t sound as if he’s driven himself. Sure, it would be fine if mom happened to have friends who had a daughter who might be a good match–but she’s fixed him up 30 times? And she doesn’t think this will lead to marriage, just a long term relationship? Definitely something wrong with both of them.</p>
<p>No one is going to remember this story next week. It’s not like the president having an affair or Britney shaving her head.</p>
<p>But anyway, no, women he dates won’t come running to the media. First of all, he doesn’t have to tell them he’s gay. All he has to do is go out with them and then not call. That makes him look more like a straight guy, not less! Second of all, even if he did confide in the women, no professional young woman in New York City would go on TV to out some hapless gay guy to his family. She’d be (rightly) tarred as the cruelest witch in town. She would destroy her own reputation by doing that.</p>
<p>I don’t get what the big deal would be if he were gay. He’s not running for anything, is he? And if he’s in NYC, it wouldn’t matter anyway.</p>
<p>The real problem is that he’s got a dominating take-charge mother and is probably very passive as a result. Not a winner, unless you like that kind of thing, of course.</p>
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<p>I agree with above. If I were a young single woman open to dating, this guy would be the last guy I’d go for.</p>
<p>Um, ah, Longprime … Is your son tall?</p>
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<p>I’m with hanna - this guy is gay. (BTW - My S is 20, 6’6" and single.)</p>
<p>“I don’t get what the big deal would be if he were gay.”</p>
<p>It wouldn’t be a big deal. It would just be a simple explanation for this man-bites-dog story. This pattern is nothing new…see the excellent movie “The Wedding Banquet” and a season 6 episode of “Sex and the City” for fictional examples of clueless parents doggedly setting up their gay sons.</p>
<p>While I really don’t think he’s gay (I really don’t think he’d let it get this far) these are rather <em>peculiar</em> choices of words:
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<p>Well, my name is Laurel so I would have real difficulty if my son said this. LOL.</p>
<p>My son would be utterly revolted if I did this. The major project in his life is putting distance between us, and while it’s a painful process, I celebrate his efforts and know that it is the only way for him to make himself a strong man.</p>
<p>My D would never date this guy, either.</p>
<p>As for gay? Maybe, but it doesn’t feel like that to me. </p>
<p>But all those dates? Really? Maybe you have something there, Hanna.</p>
<p>LOL, mythie.</p>
<p>I totally agree that my s’s would absolutely KILL me if I did anything like this. My older s is moving back to the area and is already having issues with the fact that I sent him some info on an apartment area.</p>
<p>BTW mythie, too bad your dau moved away…</p>
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<p>31 year old man’s best friend is his mom? So he can’t even find a best friend much less a girlfriend or wife.<br>
The poor guy has a problem. I doubt that he’s gay. All the gay guys I’ve known have been great friends with girls- and have many wishing they weren’t gay! And their best friends aren’t their moms.</p>
<p>Momma’s boy. And will always be, imo.</p>
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<p>I agree. And in my opinion, just as toxic to a relationship as addiction or other relationship killers.</p>
<p>A mom who would meddle to this degree will NOT stay in the background if this guy ever finds a woman. She will make sure she remains #1.</p>
<p>jym – D is just an hour and a half away. It’s the perfect distance, and her apartment is so tiny and her car is here, so she’s coming home a lot, and probably will continue to do so through law school.</p>
<p>If the young man is happy like this, who are we to say? </p>
<p>My S would definitely not be.</p>
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<p>From what I have observed, mama’s boys typically are happy with the arrangement. Their significant others, however, usually end up absolutely miserable.</p>
<p>Well maybe he won’t have a significant other. I guess, buyer beware. But in this case, a young woman would know what she was getting herself in for.</p>
<p>Mythie–
To clarify- I meant too bad your dau moved away from HERE now that my DS is returning…</p>