<p>My mom, who died long before I became a mother, would have been a fabulous grandmother. Ah well.</p>
<p>Mother’s Day was very difficult in all those years in between, not being a mother, not having a mother.</p>
<p>Today my sweet girl made me banana pancakes and really good coffee for breakfast, despite a very traumatic situation that happened to her just a few days ago. I love Mother’s Day–I am so grateful.</p>
<p>Iglooo, cute – but also close to home. I’m finding some of my maternal instincts are transferring to the cats as D launches into her “real life”. They don’t eat socks, but hairballs are a regular feature of my daily life. OTOH, they’ll never grow up and move away.</p>
<p>I think this is the first Mother’s Day without my kids. I did get to see my mom and that is a gift.</p>
<p>Happy Mother’s Day to all of you wonderful moms. Reading about your issues and exploits and benefiting from your expertise and intelligence here on CC is a blessing.</p>
<p>Happy Mother’s Day, all of you moms! I just got off the phone with DS1, who called from college. He rarely calls and rarely communicates, so his call was a treat that made my Mother’s Day complete. </p>
<p>DS2 wrote me a sweet and kind of funny note including “8 reasons u are a great mom”, #1 being “You love cats”, and #2 being “You were able to raise a great son”. Lol - note that I have two sons! </p>
<p>My mom died 15 years ago and in some ways I miss her more now than ever. I think I used to be more aware of her flaws, and now I am able to appreciate what a great mother she actually was. Probably because I am more accepting of the humanity (with all its strengths and weaknesses) in all of us.</p>
<p>Youngest called me when I was out doing errands, but I didn’t have my headphones ( I couldn’t hear)and she sounded exhausted so I only talked for literally two minutes.
He took me out to breakfast & bought me flowers which I split into three portions. One for my mothers and one for my grandmothers resting place.</p>
<p>Oldest did not call. Both her dad & I called but it went to voice mail.
Don’t know what to do for her birthday later this month.
I have always been in charge of presents, but she is an adult ( will be 31) and I will be recovering from surgery if everything goes well.
I expect if I leave it up to H, he will possibly send her a check * late<a href=“and%20he%20will%20ask%20me%20how%20much%20to%20make%20it%20out%20to”>/i</a>, although I have already bought cards.
My mother didnt really give presents once you got past 30 years old, so I dont know what other families do.</p>
<p>ek, I’m so sorry. I’ve had sucky Mother’s Days, and it makes you wonder if anyone even notices everything you do for all of them all year long. Big commiseration hug coming your way.</p>
<p>emeraldk, also was thinking about you. LasMa, is right. Sometimes kids don’t appreciate what mothers (parents) do for them until they are mothers and fathers themselves. My mother’s days are usually sad because DH does not remember. S does not remember or is even aware what everyone else in the universe is up to (clueless). My D usually does, and so she will remind everyone.</p>
<p>Like many of you, this was my first Mother’s Day without a mother and I was very sad but I appeared fully functional to the outside world. I put a brave face on it, etc. even though I was hurting. DH dropped the ball as usual, but my kids are old enough that they could have done something. They both signed their names to one Hallmark card and called it a day. We spent the day together as a family (went to my MIL’s and cooked for DH’s family) Believe me, I am greatful for that and I know that I am blessed a hundred times over. </p>
<p>But yesterday, even though I am a strong, independant, fully capable woman I desperately wanted someone to “mother me” and it didn’t happen - and it won’t ever happen and that is very sad.</p>
<p>Holidays often set us up to be let down. Sometimes I think we should all concentrate on treating each other “well” ALL days of the year and not put focus on ONE day of the year that has to become an “event”. </p>
<p>Tired, be proud that you can call yourself a “strong, independent, fully capable women” - that is an amazing attribute for a mother to display!</p>
