<p>College graduations so early in May? Congrats to all the graduates!</p>
<p>I’ll be flying across the country to see DS2 compete in the national championship of his sport. I can’t imagine a better Mother’s Day gift.</p>
<p>D will be out of the country, very preoccupied and will forget; maybe I’ll get a text. I’ll be expected to make a mega-event of my own mother’s Mothers Day. DH will give me a card and bag of Doves. On May 14, I expect I’ll be posting on the hurt/disappointed mom’s thread yet again.</p>
<p>Thank God for CC.</p>
<p>I’ll probably wake up Sunday morning to champagne and croissants in bed, then I’ll tune it to watch the big Mother’s Day parade in Manhattan (you need the special MOM channel – not available everywhere). It starts at Saks and ends at Cartier. All the moms are carried aloft by their children, and their husbands follow behind, cleaning as they go.</p>
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<p>FM, I’m not meaning to be the “punctuation police” but your posts are VERY hard to read. It’s one thing to have the spaces before AND after the periods, but it’s quite another to have a space BEFORE but NOT after the comma. I know you do this because it makes you feel “unique” but I find your posts increasingly more difficult to read.</p>
<p>I usually dread Mother’s Day. I have had some really awful ones. At this point if my kids tell me “Happy Mother’s Day”, they don’t fight and I don’t end up crying, it will be a good one.</p>
<p>D will be home on the 11th and she has already told me to expect some packages, just put them in her room (my birthday is a few days after MD), so that’s a positive sign.</p>
<p>Going out to eat on Mother’s Day is always a hassle because of the crowds, but I don’t want to have to cook, either. Stone crab season ends on May 15 so I think I’ll send H to pick some up at the local seafood market to pick some up. They cost around $25-$29/lb. so we usually only have them once or twice a year. Mother’s Day is a perfect excuse to splurge :).</p>
<p>quote from abasket:
“My yearly request is almost always to not have to cook, to have the day to work at my leisure gardening and to take a family walk (whoever is around!) at a local park. Of course, much of this is reliant on a nice weather day, but it seems the weather usually cooperates!”</p>
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<p>My sentiments exactly!! Of course, then I have to go through the whole thing of . . .</p>
<p>DH: “What do you want me to cook?”
Me: “What I want is to not have to THINK about what’s being cooked.”
DH: “Well give me some ideas.”
Me: “The whole point is that I don’t want to have to have ideas.”</p>
<p>DH plans an elaborate dinner which will take 3 hrs of chopping and preparing. He shops for weird ingredients, decides that the whole kitchen must be cleaned before he can possibly start. Then, at 7pm with much prep to go he will ask for help cutting the vegetables.</p>
<p>AAaarrrrgghh!! - I could eat PB&J or cereal just as long as I don’t have to decide or fix it or worry about what anyone else is going to eat.</p>
<p>Visiting my youngest D in Philadelphia. Going out for dinner on Saturday, because she’s working on Sunday (she’s performing) and we need to leave for home before her show is over. D’s picking the restaurant and surprising us.</p>
<p>Takeout food and some help with the yard work is all I’m asking for. (I’ll probably get the takeout food. Not holding my breath on the yard work. If it happens, it will probably be with a lot of bickering.)</p>
<p>I don’t like Mothers’ Day. Who needs a “special day” to be ignored and unappreciated by H and kids–same as every day? (Sad but true. . .)</p>
<p>atomom: might I suggest you schedule your own special day that day? Go on strike and don’t do a thing for your husband and kids. Just tell them you’re on strike for better benefits.</p>
<p>atomom, my wish list is even smaller than yours. I don’t really care about gifts, dinner out or breakfast in bed, not even a card. My perfect Mother’s Day would be D or DH (or in my fantasy world, both!) giving me a big spontaneous hug and saying, “I don’t say it enough, but I see everything you do for us, and I don’t know what I’d do without you.” That’s it.</p>
<p>I am going to surprise my mom. I just emailed my dad to let him know that we are coming to take my mom out to lunch, so they wouldn’t go out to play majhung with friends. D1 was going to take me out to dinner, but we’ll reschedule it for Sat instead. I got the flight and car, H is meeting me in NYC, so we are good to go.</p>
<p>I wish h didn’t have to work next weekend, we could go see one of the D’s.
Crap, I also don’t know what to get him for his birthday.
Well, I * know*, but neither my wallet or my shopping instincts want to pick out new skis & boots for him.</p>
<p>But I would encourage all moms who feel unappreciated to take the day off.
Go to a movie, or just sit in the library and read uninterrupted if you have to.
Believe me, I have done it myself( although not usually when it was also his birthday)</p>
<p>That sounds great old fort, she will love it! Does your dad keep a secret?</p>
<p>My dad is NOT good at keeping a secret, especially from my mom, but I need to make sure they do not go out (they have a very busy schedule as retired people).</p>
<p>Around here, we call it “Grandmother’s Day,” because moms are not (often) truly appreciated until their children are grown. My mother has been gone for many years, but it is a day of homage to my MIL, who gave everything to her family. However, she would agree that it isn’t particularly important because we all do what we do out of love for our families, and we understand that we hold it all together. My kids are still young and they don’t make a fuss, but I know that I am the foundation of their lives - I don’t need much more than my college daughter to ask when she’s coming home, “Can we can make pesto and watch a movie later,” to feel valued. I know all moms underwhelmed by Mother’s Day feel similarly - I’d rather be needed now than reminisced about later.</p>
<p>As far as I know I won’t be doing much. DH usually gets flowers and he might cook a steak on the grill.</p>
<p>Mine will be along the lines of saintfan and atomom! :)</p>
<p>Mother’s Day for me starts out with my hosting an after-prom party at our house. In the midst of chaperoning, I will be taking care of an 8-week old puppy we’re getting the day before! I’ll go to church with my family, come home and record contributions (I’m the church’s financial secretary), then collapse for awhile. I’ve told my husband I hate eating out on Mother’s Day, so he’s going to grill some steaks later in the afternoon.</p>
<p>I will remind my husband the day before to please NOT bring up the topic of how we need to spring clean badly! For some reason, he always seems to do that on Mother’s Day, lol.</p>
<p>I want to do something nice for my mom who will be 87 this year. My sister and I were just talking about this. A couple of years ago, she booked a room at a local Italian restaurant and treated all of us to a great Mother’s Day dinner and then gave all the women (6 daughters and 3 grandaughters) pearl necklaces. Last year, we all made food and brought it to her house which is what he typically do. I want this year to be more special though. Maybe the 10 grandchildren (all are 18 or over except for one who is 8) can take her out or all of us can. It is tough to get everyone to agree on what to do. Any ideas are welcome!!!</p>
<p>Driving back from DD’s college graduation. 12 hours if there were not any stops. There will be stops. Don’t know if any relevant parties are aware of the fact that it’s Mother’s Day.
One thing I know I will be doing is remembering my mother. She would have been so happy to see where her grandchildren are now.</p>