I am having my “firsts” after divorce. I just had my first birthday, and now first mother’s day. D1 and her BF and I had plan on taking my mom out this Sun, but it turns out she is going to my niece’s graduation, so this will also be the first mother’s day I am not spending with my mom.
D1 is taking me to a ballet and dinner the following Sun because she thought we were going to be my mom this Sun. I am going to stay at my home away from home (work home) this weekend. D2 told me she is sending some crabs to me.
I guess this is a long winded way of saying I am not doing anything on mother’s day.
Wishing all the great mothers on CC a great day. You all deserve it.
Both of my daughters live away from home. I am lucky this year as I am on a trip visiting my oldest daughter in the UK and we are going to be together on Mother’s Day and in Norway. That will be a treat. The younger daughter will be on a plane to Israel that day. However, last Mother’s Day, the oldest was in CA and the younger one was in my city for a few weeks for a job and we were together on Mother’s Day. So, both years worked out for me, but not always.
My husband bought tickets to the Giants game on Sunday, so we will be heading north and get to see my son! I’m the sports fan, so the tix are not a secret gift to themselves.
It was a secret I just found out about and I’m sure it was completely husband’s idea. If my son even remembered it was Mother’s Day and sent me a text my eyes would roll back in my head in astonishment.
I sent my mom an edible arrangement. She lives in a ccrc and doesn’t have space for one more “thing”. My d is coming home Saturday but my son won’t be home until late Sunday. Not that I think he’ll even remember.
We’re going to brunch in the city. I don’t expect gifts, and really don’t need them. My favorite was always the homemade stuff they made when they were little.
My apologies to those planning a barbecue but I also wish some rain.
For the first time as a mom (24 years) neither of my kids will be with me on Mothers Day. D lives in another city and S is still taking finals.
D told me a gift should be arriving tomorrow or Saturday, hopefully S remembers!
I really need to buy a few things for myself so I will likely do that.
My niece is having her daughter baptized in our hometown church so I will be with my sisters and their families on Sunday. My husband doesn’t particularly like my family (his issues that he admits) so I will be going alone. My son is in LA and will probably call like he did last year and like he did for my birthday in July. I will again be very disappointed that he can’t make more of an effort (I am already feeling sorry for myself) but by next week I will get over it, I hope.
My two S’s prob. have no idea that this weekend is Mother’s Day. Neither of them has a gf to prod them into action! They live 3 and 5 hours away from us. A visit is not happening. Card is doubtful but I’m not a big fan of cards anyhow. A phone call is my only possibility.
DH and I will prob. spend the day at his Mom’s unless the weather turns ugly on the Outer Banks.
I’m pretty bad on small gestures but have my wife, who is a great mother, to thank for help. With her reminder, I have sent flowers to both M and MIL. At her suggestion, I have already purchased some miracle woman’s spa/massage oil that breed’s envy at the gym (Don’t ask me). I had forgotten this Sunday was Mother’s Day – I’m sitting in the lounge at Heathrow waiting to fly home. We have a dinner Friday night, a party some friends are giving Saturday and yoga Sunday AM. Maybe, we will do a bike ride after yoga to lunch or, maybe we can celebrate on Saturday. ShawD lives 30+ minutes away and ShawSon on the other coast.
Fortunately, I am very good on the larger gestures (supporting her career, long-term planning, investments, enabling our kids to succeed) and critically, providing espresso in the morning if I wake up first, so she mostly forgivesm y weaknesses in the small.
As a few others have expressed, I have low expectations. We used to host brunch on Mother’s Day, but it is really a lot of work and we had 30 folks over for brunch on Easter so that is NOT happening this year. My bday was last week so I do not expect another present, but a hug, kiss and a Happy Mother’s Day would be nice. I expect my 22yo S and DH will both be working at least part of the day. S will most likely forget it is Mother’s Day unless DH reminds him. I expect D will make me a card with a coupon for some kind of of experience in it. Although I have no desire to brave the crowds and go out to eat, I would appreciate not having to cook and would welcome pizza for dinner.
I hope everyone has a wonderful day. Don’t take to heart forgetfulnes of your son’s and daughters.
Mother’s Day around our house in years gone by usually consisted of H asking me at about 6 PM when I was already starting to cook if I wanted to go out to dinner.
This year he asked if I wanted to go see S. (A gift to himself, too. 
) Unfortunately, S works on Sunday and I have a prior commitment on Saturday.
I hope to spend Sunday playing Ticket to Ride with my S’s godfather. I’m deciding what to send my own mother.
Said my son last year when a cashier wished me a happy Mother’s Day, “Mother’s Day? Is that a thing?”
So D1 is in Colorado this weekend visiting her best friend ( and her b/f is there for a conference.). She mentioned that they all will be spending time together and hiking in Rocky Mountain Park. But she said her best friend would be spending Sunday with her Mom for Mother’s Day. I said jokingly that obviously she, my D1, would not be with me.
So today I got a flower delivery of a very lovely large bunch of tulips.
I in no way intended to make her feel guilty and was totally surprised. I think it was a lovely jester.
D is out of town, but oldest S is nearby for a conference. Not wanting to risk him being confused, I flat out said…“I’d love to see you Sunday”. He jokingly said, “I wonder why?” so I know he knows it’s Mothers Day. Progress!!
Count me in for not braving the crowds for Mother’s Day dinner…take out on the couch with my peeps and a good movie sounds perfect.
I will call my mom, our only living parent, then probably grill some steaks for dinner. Mr. B will buy me a bunch of Costco flowers, and I will get some belated texts from kiddos. Low key is the best. (Shhh… a denim skirt is scheduled to arrive from Italy tomorrow.)
My son is visiting for a few days (he lives about 1200 miles away) and will be here for mothers day which I am excited about. Husband is going to grill steaks. Not sure what my daughter’s plans are. She lives about 40 miles away but usually goes to her husband’s family for any major holidays. I was hoping she might come for mothers day as her brother is here and it would be nice to have a rare holiday (or any day) with the whole family together, but she hasn’t said anything so I suspect it won’t happen. My Mum is our only living parent but she is in England and English mothers day was a few weeks ago. I always send flowers which I hope she enjoys (she has dementia and is not very aware any more, she always tells me she doesn’t have a room in the care home she lives in so I often wonder if she realizes she has flowers when I send them!)
As with all other holidays, especially birthdays, I am not into hoopla - or gifts - call me weird!
My family knows the best “gift” they can give me is a few words of love, permission to buy all the gardening plants I want, time to garden and some good take out food to eat on the deck after all that gardening. Spending time outside either gardening or at a park for a walk with whatever family is around has always been my idea of a perfect ANY day!
I will try to get to my mom’s 40 minutes away and cut her grass and bring her a pretty potted arrangement or hanging basket for her front porch. Happy that she is still here at 81 to enjoy Mother’s Day!
I am taking a friend to lunch today. Her mother passed away about a month ago and she is handling it well but sad and I think her husband and kids don’t really get how painful it is for her. My mother is also deceased and I always thought Mother’s Day was more about her than me so I know how my friend feels.
Post #36, I don’t expect much but I’m willing to go the garden center and let one of my daughters buy me a plant. She often have a $20 budget, I take what I can get when it comes to plants.
Sadly, I seem to kill plants that are given to me. I have a brown thumb 