Opened this thread and remembered to send my mom flowers today. My dad died in December and this will be her first Mother’s Day without him. He made every occasion special, so I know this will be hard and the prospect of her birthday at the end of the month even harder. I live about 400 miles away, but my sister has planned a lovely day for her. Then, just a few minutes ago, my doorbell rang and there appeared a gorgeous arrangement…from my son’s girlfriend, thanking me for having him 
Hope this one sticks!
Everyone have an enjoyable and relaxing Mothers day weekend.
@shellz - Your laid-back Mother’s Day sounds great to me too. Ours has had to evolve in the last few years because of my very elderly mom. Until she moved into Assisted Living 5 years ago, DH used to barbeque for just the three of us (me, him, D) and that was just my speed. The past 5 years, we’ve attended the huge Mother’s Day spread at the Assisted Living, which was also nice. But she’s moved into a smaller place which doesn’t host that kind of thing for families, and it’s just very difficult logistically to bring her to my place. So for the first time in my life, we’re going out for brunch this year. Not that I’m complaining; it’s a nice place, and I’m thankful that Mom is still able to go out. But I do miss those quiet, at-home Mothers Days.
@LasMa I feel for you. Aging parents and their needs are a blessing to be able to provide for, but still the same time it requires sacrifice from our families. My mom refused to move any closer after my dad passed away, so now we make the 5 hour car ride when we can. It was tough trying to juggle kids’ sports schedules and school vacations and I carried a lot of guilt over not going out more often. I hope to move within driving distance of at least one of my kids when it appears they are really, really settled. I don’t want to be old and alone, and be relying on my kids to schlep their families to me.
Well I just got my Mother’s Day phone call, two days early because he will be on set from early in the morning until too late Pittsburgh time. I know that I should be happy that he made the effort but right now I am really disappointed. I still haven’t come to terms with being so unimportant in his life. Luckily, I have a family baptism to attend on Sunday so I will be busy. By Monday I will recover from my funk.
It would help if my Pittsburgh Pirates would start scoring some runs; I can’t even distract myself with baseball.
@lotsofquests - Given that your son did call, and 2 days early!, I would say you are important in his life. <3
D and H are taking me to see a movie. Anyone who knows me, knows that is the most special thing anyone could ever do for me. I love seeing movies at the theater, and I rarely have a chance to anymore… Hopefully, something good is playing, I haven’t checked yet.
My Mom is six hours away - I rarely get down there for Mother’s Day but call, of course, and used to send a flower basket for outside; but this year, and last, I’ve sent Kiss My Face products she likes - she can’t buy them where she lives and she loves them.
We are in Peru. I expect to be hiking around Cusco on Mother’s Day before we go to Machu Picchu.
@BeeDAre How fun! I think The Age of Adaline looks interesting, and Noble seems intriguing but heavy. I cannot wait for Fat Amy and the cast to return to the big screen in Pitch Perfect 2. Juvenile, but i like the music
My mom died almost 6 yrs ago, at 75. I miss her every day.
I’m thinking of going to the Daybreak Star cultural center, for a day of prayer and healing.
I changed our plans. Instead of fighting traffic in the city I voted to go out on the boat and stop at a restaurant along the river instead.
Found out last night my daughter and SIL are coming tomorrow so I will have both kids here for mother’s day. First time since my son moved away 4 years ago that we will all be together for a special holiday which is all the gift I need. Husband will grill steaks and I’m thinking we’ll break out that $80 bottle of wine my boss gave me at Christmas - I’ve been waiting for a special occasion and can’t imagine a better one 
It’s tough to have them all in one place. I bribe them with nice vacation but it will work for a short while until significant others are in the picture.
lotsofquests, yes i agree with doschicos, you are important, he went out of his way to make that phone call. Appreciate the gesture, Mothers day is just a day. It doesnt have to be celebrated on Sunday.
BeeDAre, you are like me, I love movies and the theatre. My husband is away on business, my two D’s are not back from college yet, so I will be home alone with S, who is 20 yrs old. I reminded my two D’s to send a text/message to their grandma for MD. One D says she has a present for me, and she knows I will like it. My DH sent chocolates. I will probably head to the movies solo on Sunday to see Woman in Gold.
lotsofquests, I agree with the others-he called early because he knew he would be unavailable for the actual holiday. Would you rather he skip work?
soonmtnest-i LOVE your CC name! Cute!
My parents and grandparents are sadly long gone. My H and 3 kids have some secret thing planned. Older D works in a restaurant in a position that doesn’t have many to fill it, so she may not get the day off. I’m curious to see what they have in mind. H is a sweet, romantic guy who’s always made sure that my kids remember me, even after the older ones were grown and moved away. I appreciate that, even if I get a gift that isn’t “me”. But in the end, it’s just one day-the rest of those days and how they treat me matter even more.
I agree with the pack, lotsofquests. My eldest S told his dad he would rush back from an event he’s at this weekend in Toledo (about 9 hours from here) to get here for Mother’s Day and I told my S, in no uncertain terms, not to bother. I know he loves me, nothing else needed. Your S remembered that Sunday is Mother’s Day and reached out early knowing he would not be able to do so on Sunday. He remembered…that’s the key!
I can usually count on CC to cheer me up when I am being unreasonable. I know that part of my gloom is that I will be with my sisters on Sunday and their kids and grandkids. I am jealous. At 65, I am ready to be a grandma but at 23 my son is nowhere near ready to be a father! So, I guess that it is really my fault for waiting until I was 42 to become a mother. Also, my son is the only one far away and I don’t even have a phone call to look forward to. On a positive note, after not hearing from him for a couple of weeks, I have gotten two texts from him since his phone call. Today, he is working on the former set of Boston Legal which he and his dad watched religiously.
Thanks for the positive comments; they are really appreciated.
Yes, it is good to have CC to straighten us out sometimes. My D just tested to ask if we could grill at lunch instead of dinner because her husband made plans to play dungeons and dragons with friends tomorrow evening. I said it was fine, but must admit to being surprised he would plan that on mother’s day (my daughter said she’s said the same thing, so I that made me feel a bit better in a weird way). I would have understood it more if they were doing lunch with us and dinner with his Mom and grandma! I was mildly irritated for a moment, then thought of this thread.
Still happy we get to spend time together. May have to rethink the wine though. Red wine at lunch will make me tired and grumpy the rest of the day and I’m not opening that particular bottle unless I can partake!
Swimcats, you are a better mom than I am…I would have said No–plans have been made and it’s MY day, your brother is here, blah blah blah.
(and I would have played the guilt card on my D about even bringing it up to me and not giving her H grief for his priorities with his friends–don’t they have Moms either???. I’d also remind her that this is what she might expect if she ever has kids and H doesn’t think ONE day it isn’t about him. Wow… I’m getting this guilt thing down pat. On one day of the year, anyways…)