I think the fact that her brother is here makes it a little more disappointing. But it is very difficult to make holiday plans with them as they will never commit in advance, so guess I will take what I can get.
Lotsofquests, I wondered if that was it. Not so much what you are doing but what others are doing and how they make you feel.
My kids live far away and we don’t get to see them often. We are happy, they are happy but not everyone can understand that. They don’t get that I’m not in my kids pockets all the time. That we and our kids are living their lives. And I’m not flying out to visit them all the time. I admit that I wish I could fly out and see the kids all the time. But it’s not to be. Besides the kids are busy, with work and their daily lives.
I look at my sil with all her kids nearby and that they are able to go on vacation together. And then I remember that my sil and bil are still supporting their young adults and the “kids” are not launching. I think my sil is secretly happy with the arrangement. They can afford to be and we can’t. Different circumstances.
I’m jealous sometimes. And know that people don’t get it. It’s ok.
But my sil and bil went away for the weekend. Mother’s Day weekend. Go figure.
My S is launched and D were are hoping will launch in the near future, as soon as we can get her healed. We do get to see them for at least 3+ visits a year and consider that pretty good. I do wish D wasn’t 2500 miles away and S wasn’t 5000 miles away but am happy they are living their lives. I am also thrilled that we will see them both next month for a long weekend in SF, where we’re all flying in & my parents will be there too. It should be amazing!
My kids don’t really do anything for Mother’s Day (in hindsight, that’s my husband’s fault) but my D does send me whole host of snarky / funny Someecards, which is becoming a new tradition.
I wouldn’t expect and certainly not DEMAND that a grown woman with a husband rearrange her day to visit me, though of course if it was a special day I’d be a bit sad. But I’d also take a moment and recall what they did and continue to do during “regular” days rather than focus on “My Day”. My older D will likely have to work tomorrow but just the other day she called and wanted to come “hang out”. To me, that matters more-that she still wants to hang out with mom even though she has her own life. After all, it’s ALWAYS Mother’s Day for us moms!
LOL, I have 5 minutes before I have to leave. Here’s what’s going on this weekend:
D’s senior prom is tonight. Leaving to take photos of her, her date and friends at a friend’s house in half an hour. Immediately after that I will jump in the car (already packed and loaded) and drive 5+ hours to S2’s college graduation, which is tomorrow morning.
H and S1 left on Friday to be there for an honors ceremony and the departmental ceremony. After a late lunch/early dinner tomorrow, I will hop back in the car with S1, and drive back home, dropping him off along the way, because he has work on Monday morning. Imshould get home around midnight. H is staying until Monday (He gets all the fun, because when S1 graduated he had two days to come home for it before deploying to Afghanistan.)
D is going to a school sponsored after prom party, then spending the rest of the night at a friend’s house. I have to be home on Monday morning to be sure she gets to school on time… HS lacrosse playoff game on Monday afternoon. Players are ineligible to play unless they are in school.
Mother’s Day? What’s that?
Lots of quests -
I sympahthize. I think the main thing is that its hard to be a Pirates fan under many conditions. That’s probably the bigger source of your funk. For the record, I do very little for my out-of-town Mom for Mother’s Day because we think its kind of a silly holiday (though I won’t turn down a brunch if it’s offered!). She knows we’re close, and since she called today, and we only talk once a week or so, I don’t think she’s expecting a call. After this thread,I think maybe I should call anyway.
- A Giants fan
I hear you! But I’m glad your S, though he won’t be with you, is being attentive via his phone. I’d take that and run with it. He’s remembering you, and that’s the most important thing.
I’m trying to reorient and think of myself this weekend not as a mother, but as a daughter. My goal is to make my mother’s friends jealous of her. 
Good goal 
My s’s birthdays are always at/around mothers day and fathers day. Spoke to both today and hopefully will again tomorrow. Just had a fun weekend with DH out of town so may have a quiet day tomorrow. Will be with the whole family on fathers day, so its all good.
Threads like this one is why I love cc. We get it, no matter what your “it” is.
This popped up on Google’s news feed:
http://nypost.com/2015/05/02/a-miserable-mothers-day-made-me-cheat-on-my-husband/
Hilarious that she blames Mother’s Day, when she says the guy is a crumb anyway.
Point is, look at the other 364 days and decide whether Mother’s Day is more important than them.
I plan to drive my son to work, and finish up final grades for my classes.
I’m flying back to asia in business class-- my idea of Mother’s Day champagne brunch
Chocks away.
Both kids are too far away too visit, I am sure they will call and send something nice.
DH is taking me for a cycling trip tomorrow - I don’t think this counts as a gift since we do this together every weekend
I have a friend whose husband never does anything for her for mothers day. Didn’t even wish her.
This went on for a few years. Finally she decided instead of waiting for something special she would go purchase a piece of jewelry she really liked and charge it on the credit card. She would then wear it and if asked would say “this is your mothers day present for me.” I must say she has beautiful jewelry.
I guess I’m in the minority. Why should my H be the one to do anything for me for Mother’s Day? Besides help the kids out with any “celebrations” when they were little, I don’t see how/why I would expect a return from him???
Really, I admit, I sort of don’t get holidays like this. Why do I need a holiday or day set aside to honor me being a mother?? I’m one every day of the year - most days I get some “thanks” for the things I do anyway - sometimes out loud thanks, sometimes non-verbal thanks.
I’ll enjoy the day - but really, just like any Sunday that you would give me hours to do what I want!
I went and visited my mother tonight and brought dinner - she enjoyed it and so did I - not because it was Mother’s Day but because it made for a nice Saturday.
Enjoy your Sunday everyone - whether you are a Mom, or not!!!
Tomorrow is going to be a difficult day for me, because it’s not only Mother’s Day but also happens to be the 40th anniversary of the car accident on the Cross-Bronx Expressway, while my mother was driving me home from New Haven at the end of my third year of college, that resulted in her death six weeks later. I will try to think about her life rather than dwell on her death, but, unfortunately, I still remember the details of what happened so vividly that it’s hard to put them out of my mind on a day like tomorrow.
DonnaL, that is a sad, sad story. Good approach to celebrate the life of your mom and the happier times. I hope you feel her positive presence in some way tomorrow. Hugs!
I got beautiful hanging petunias for my deck today…and tomorrow we will go out to brunch.
Last year, both kids were with me on Mothers Day and that was the best gift of all. Maybe next year!
Like @Pizzagirl, we’ve never been a big gifting family, aside from Christmas or birthdays. Hubby and I will usually forgo gifts to each other in lieu of a date night. The big surprise I got today was a 45 minute phone call with oldest S, and by the end I was beyond weepy. He said the sweetest things about his childhood, our family, and his desire to be the same kind of parent someday. Can’t wrap that if you tried, but hands down the best (and most unexpected) gift ever. Kinda makes up for all the mothers days when hubby and kids snuck out at 9 pm the night before to pick up a last minute card and tchotchke from CVS.
I hope that all you moms get the same tomorrow, and feel truly loved and appreciated.