Moving...yet again!

Hi all! Long time no chat!

Almost a year to the day after I started my first full-time position, I am back with another announcement! I have accepted a new job in St. Louis (My old graduate school stomping grounds…or very close!)

This has been a very difficult year for me, both personally and professionally. It felt very permanent when I packed up and left mom and dad’s last July, and I moved to a small(er) town where the closest family was a 4.5 hour drive over the Rocky Mountains and my only friends were those I worked with.

The department was just welcoming a new director who had no Student Affairs experience and had never lived in, whether as an RA, graduate student, or professional (all of which I have.) So that was an extremely difficult transition; unless you’ve done it, it’s really difficult to understand. Almost a full year later, I still don’t know that she really understands what we do or why our work is important.

My anxiety was through the roof almost constantly. I loved my RA staff, but it was a very difficult transition from grad to professional, especially having zero support system (nearby) outside the campus.

My saving grace in all of this was my supervisor; she was experienced, insightful, and challenging; so many of the things that I aspire to be.

In October, I asked (after having a permissive pet policy rejected) if I could get an emotional service animal (due to my anxiety level being so high.) I was told that I didn’t need that accommodation because I didn’t seem to be suffering and was doing great work (or, basically, that I didn’t “look” mentally ill. Whatever that means.)

In January, I found out that my supervisor’s contract was not being renewed–the Student Affairs equivalent of being fired. This was fairly devastating for me.

Fast forward to just a few weeks ago, and we were informed that they were hiring a current undergraduate student to be a Hall Coordinator for this coming year. For context, the last time this department had a student coordinator was in 2008. This is HIGHLY uncommon practice and in fact flies in the face of professional standards and best practice.

Meanwhile, I was interviewing for various positions and trying to find a way out; I couldn’t just be unemployed, with car payments and student loan payments, but I was incredibly unhappy (by this point my supervisor had left) and felt like I would not survive another year in such a toxic department.

Then came a text message from the amazing supervisor: “Hypothetically speaking, if I had a job for you, would you come and work for me?”

After a few weeks of Skype interviews, I received an offer this Wednesday and could not accept fast enough. I leave Colorado on Tuesday and move in on Thursday, and Friday will be my first day. It is a small, private institution, similar to where I did my summer internship between my two years of graduate school (and was blissfully happy.) I will have close friends from graduate school and some extended family within a 2-4 hour drive.

I always feel like I have to share news (good or bad) on CC; you all have been such a huge support to me since I joined in 2007 (almost ten years! Unbelievable!) and have been a huge part of my personal and professional development.

I am so beyond thrilled to go somewhere that I know will support me, care about me as a person and as a professional, and to be near to such amazing family and friends.

Happy belated Independence Day to you all!

I am really happy for you. It sounds like the new job will be much better for you, and if you already know and respect your boss, that’s just another plus. Thanks for the update. I feel like a “long lost aunt” or something to some of the younger posters here.

I can’t believe it’s been a year! I remember the beginning of your job adventure last summer. I’m glad your next job has many positives built in - the supervisor and proximity to family. Life is too short to remain stressed and miserable so it’s wonderful that this opportunity was presented to you. Best wishes!

Thank you both! It was a very difficult decision because I was not able to give two weeks’ notice and I don’t like feeling like I am leaving others in a negative situation, but I needed to do what was right for me, and I really feel that this was the best decision.

Good for you, but you should be more careful and avoid leaving derogatory comments about previous employers on a public forum. With so many clues, you are hardly anonymous. A true professional should understand that.

HGFM, cyber hugs and best of luck in your new position. Sometimes, voting with your feet is the best solution and leads to humongous stress relief. Been there, done that. No regrets. :slight_smile:

Good luck with the new position.

Good luck with the new job and the new location. Glad your supervisor was looking out for you and that you were able to find a new job rather easily.