<p>The D of one of my neighbors graduated from the local commuter college last weekend. 30 years old, overcoming quite a few obstacles. We didn’t receive a grad announcement but I’d like to send her a card to say that we are proud of her. Will I look terribly cheap if I don’t enclose money or a check? Is it worse (in the eyes of the graduate and/or her parents) to send a card with no gift enclosed than no card at all?</p>
<p>I suspect your neighbor’s daughter would be delighted to receive your card congratulating her on her accomplishment. If your relationship with her is not so close, hopefully she would not expect cash to be involved. A few encouraging words will always be appreciated.</p>
<p>I have sent cards with a note (no money) to several people for graduation. I only put in money if it is a relative or close friend.</p>
<p>I think a card with an encouraging note would be lovely & very kind.</p>
<p>Personally, I just can’t do it. A $10 card from the 'Bucks is well worth it to me not to get that “are they gonna think I’m a cheapskate” feeling. </p>
<p>I can’t imagine anyone expecting it and thinking cheapskate, but that’s just me. Unless close friend or family, I would not feel any reason to send money.</p>
<p>I sent a card when my niece graduated from her Masters program. Didn’t feel like that was out of line.</p>
<p>I don’t think putting money in a card is necessary for a 30-year-old. I would think differently if they were the normal age, only because it’s the sort of thing you do for a kid. </p>
<p>I think at 30 the person appreciate the thought. 18, maybe not…</p>
<p>If money’s placed in a card is practiced, it’s usually done for younger close relatives and friends up to 22 or so. </p>
<p>Not for casual acquaintances or neighbors…and not very common for someone over 25.</p>
<p>I received quite a few congrats cards from family/friends. I’d say less than 5 had money in them. Definitely not necessary. </p>
<p>I think that writing a sincere note - more than Just a couple words, will be better than any small monetary gift. </p>
<p>Should any graduation cards contain money?</p>
<p>Yes, cards to nephews, nieces, grandkids, children of good friends, children who have worked for you babysitting, cutting lawns, etc.</p>
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<p>Among the families I’m aware of, mainly close family and friends and traditionally-aged graduates. </p>
<p>I don’t think it’s mandatory in the least. For anyone of any age. And I think it comes off a little weird for a 30 yo. </p>
<p>“Yes, cards to nephews, nieces, grandkids, children of good friends, children who have worked for you babysitting, cutting lawns, etc.”</p>
<p>Why? I’m sending cards to some hs graduates - children of friends. I wouldn’t expect them to send my kids money - why would I send their kids money? </p>
<p>I’m with you, PG. My kids only got money in cards from Grandma, maybe an aunt or uncle. would not expect it from friends of mine. That’s fine if it’s the norm with a given group, but certainly not across the board necessary.</p>
<p>Thanks so much, everyone! CC folks always come through with wisdom.</p>
<p>Just got a “graduation announcement” from a former neighbor. Her parents did not send a card/gift to either of my s’s when they graduated. Am I expected to send a $ gift? </p>