People get “dumped” in all types of relationships (not just romantic ones), and in all sorts of ways, and for all sorts or reasons. It is unclear whether or not your friend is “dumping” you at this point since he hasn’t come out and said that he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore, but the fact remains that the feeling is the same whether he has officially or not. IT HURTS!! You probably feel abandoned and don’t know where you stand in the relationship. There isn’t much you can do if he no longer wants to be friends with you. Over your lifetime you have many relationships, some which will last a lifetime and some that will end badly, but that doesn’t take away the fact that it just plain hurts. Now you will go through the process of learning to deal with the loss. It is sad and painful when a relationship that means a lot to you ends, there’s no two ways about it. There’s no shame in seeking help at your school’s counseling center, no doubt they deal with this type of thing all of the time and may be a good resource for you.
if you think that he changed already, then its ok. if you think that you’re a real friend, then be there for him always. a true friend never leaves his friend. he will realize your importance if he already experienced what you’re going up to right now. never ignore him when you see him around, if he feels that you’re ignoring him, your communication with him might get worse.
I’d consider transferring, to be honest. I personally don’t like the idea of going to college with a best friend, and your posts have shown me why I’m happy to be nine hours away from him. Your friend clearly doesn’t want anything to do with you during school, so I’d dump him now. It’s all about self-respect.
LOL, you don’t have to leave the school just because there’s someone you don’t like there. OP isn’t even living on campus, if I recall correctly. He never has to see the friend if he doesn’t want to.
You’d attend more campuses than you can count if little stuff like this was reason enough to transfer. Probably spend more than four years in college, too.
You’ve grown away from each other, or he’s grown away from you. It’s part of life.
Back off, take his message, and start to find a new group of friends.
A situation like this happened with one of my friends during our freshman year. We weren’t attending the same college, but we did grow apart; we never really talked to each other or made plans. When people leave high school, life pulls them in so many different directions. Life isn’t as simple as it was in high school. When people go to college, they gain new friends and a new “squad.” And, unfortunately, sometimes old friends drift apart and make way for the new friends. It’s all a part of growing up.
@bodangles I’m not saying that there won’t be people that he doesn’t like - even for me, the one negative about my favorite class is that a girl I dislike is in it. But wouldn’t it be easier for OP to forget about his friend if they went to different schools, though?
??? No??? You want him to go through ALL THE EFFORT of getting good grades to transfer. Researching different schools their requirements and deadlines. Writing essays and getting recs if needed. Keeping all of those dates and requirements straight. Also MOVING, because he commutes.
Just because a former friend might be breathing the same air.
That’s absolutely insane.
@bodangles I never said I wanted him to, just suggested it to him. And could you chill with the usage of “insane”, please?
Would you prefer “childish”? How would he pay for a new school when a) transfers don’t get the big financial aid like freshmen do, and b) presumably it wouldn’t be as close/commutable as his current school, forcing room and board fees?
OP is the guy who wanted to skip the first day of college. He doesn’t need bad ideas put into his head. (Sorry, OP. Glad to hear you’ve been feeling a bit better, though!!)
Which school does the OP attend?
@LBad96 I attend the University of Maryland College park. Where do you go to? ]
FYI everyone I managed to contact him last Monday. He said that he would chat with me on Sunday at 8.
I apologized for suggesting that he plays sports instead of the gym. He said that I did not need to be sorry.
He said he did not call me because he was busy doing laundry and that there was no wifi. Is he lying? I won’t confront him about it though.
Hopefully he will keep his word. He did act strange though when he started college though.
I agree with @bodangles, there is no need for OP to transfer. That’s going so far for something so small. & OP, I don’t think you need Wi-Fi to call someone however I would think that if he puts in zero efforts while you put in every efforts, it would be smart not to waste your energy. College is a time for change for some people. I myself, rarely talk to my best friends anymore. I’d ask him if you are cool and are on good terms. Maybe ask for a day to eat out but if he refuses then it’s time to find a new friend. Happiness is all you really need. It might sound selfish but, it’ll get a whole lot of people to stop worrying.
@beetleman oh wow, you definitely don’t need to transfer then. Forget that I ever suggested that lol. As for myself, I attend the University of North Carolina Wilmington.
I don’t really talk to my close friends a ton either, but that’s because they all go to different universities/are still at high school back home. It happens. I think you should try to patch things up and find out if you’re both cool. If not, then time to move on.