Okay, so I’m (finally) a senior this year. That means I get all th even tradions, like the senior lounge, senior prank, and senior breakfast. At the breakfast you choose one person to be your capper and give a nice speech about how they have impacted your life.
I love my math teacher a lot and she is very special to me. I really want her to be my capper. But my parents assume I’m picking them. How can I tell them I want my math teacher instead?
PS I am a girl
What do most seniors do? If most students pick their parents and if it would hurt your parents terribly if you chose someone else, then I’d pick your parents. Sorry if it isn’t the answer your want to hear but your parents have always been with you and will be with your forever and the math teacher won’t. This doesn’t diminish the math teacher’s value and doesn’t mean you shouldn’t thank her. But the math teacher would likely be equally delighted if you write a nice note and give a small gift to say thank for all she has done for you.
PS I’m a mom so that is my perspective.
Agree that if it is more traditional to pick parents, then you should do that. Don’t hurt the people who have raised and supported you. (Ask your math teacher to write you a college recommendation, that would be a whole lot more valuable honestly!)
Agree with the above posters. Unless the majority of people select teachers, it would probably be best to pick your parents. They’ve supported you a lot longer than your teacher and will likely continue to be a larger part of your life for years to come. It’s not worth disturbing the peace by choosing someone else and offending them.
A nice thank you card and maybe even a little gift card or something would probably be more than enough to show your thanks to the teacher.
What is a capper? Never heard the term. And as a parent, if most kids choose a parent, you should too. Ask the math teacher for a rec instead, that’s a great way to show your gratitude.
It is a ceremony where a special person places your graduation cap on your head while one selected person reads a speech you wrote about the person.
BTW, it’s about 50/50 with half the kids choosing parents and half choosing teachers.
Then I’d chose your parents if you think they would be hurt if you chose a teacher.
Choose your math teacher for this school ceremony, if that’s the best opportunity you have to recognize her support.
Then, in a more private time at home, maybe at dinner, take the time to tell your parents how grateful you are for their help, love, and support. And make sure to give them lots of hugs before and after graduation.
Thank you so much for your advice @whitespace!!
Guess you just wanted someone to tell you it is okay to hurt your parents’ feelings. They put a roof over your head, fed you, and have been helping you out a lot longer than any one teacher.
Guess I’m in the minority with WS. It can seem pretty routine to pick your parents, just like so many kids write about how their Mom is their BFF 4-evvver. Will your parents feelings really be “hurt?” Or are they just assuming and they’d be fine? Is this really a “thank your parents” ceremony or meant to be something else? I wouldn’t be offended if one of mine had chosen a teacher. I know 24/7/365 about my kids’ affection and appreciation for me and Dad.
Couldn’t you mention your parents in a couple of lavish sentences and then say you chose a teacher capper because of the influences in school?