<p>I live in a poor neighborhood in an asian community and go to a commuter college. My neighborhood has a lot of poor low quality type of people who are immigrants and who don't work. I am like the complete opposite of these people and feel I don't belong in this neighborhood. The government pays for all these people, basically I am middle class but you all know what NYC is famous for. I have no asian identity because I don't speak the language and I dislike the asian mentality of being better than others and looking down. It is annoying to have to go through the neighborhood in my commute. </p>
<pre><code> Going to this commuter college to me is a pain. I am in a honors program which is pretty strong but I already knew the experience wasn't going to be that good. While I pay nothing at all, I feel that I got a raw deal. I don't think that it is worth going to a cuny where one gets very little. Reasons include less than stellar professors, a weaker student body and less resources. I feel like I am just a student at the main cuny school and it is generally known that cunys are a crappy deal. Most students would be annoyed if they felt like they were only going to a cuny. But I guess the choices are limited in NYC unless one makes a top college and can afford it.
I went to a middle school in the projects because of some neighborhood dispute over there being too many asians in a local school, so the schools merged. I guess I have some form of social phobia or am pretty shy naturally and growing up in a bad environment was diastrous. I basically focused on academics and sports as a fan growing up. My parents didn't teach me to be social and didn't help me out much. They all felt that I couldn't be successful no matter what and felt I was useless. Basically going to bad schools until high school, messed me up socially. By that time, I didn't even realize the importance of friends and was very shy, so I had a crappy social life in high school. This lead to making few friends in a commuter college where it was already hard to make friends.
<p>Its pretty annoying because I did get into a top tier private school but couldn't pay for it. This was the product of a lot of hard work and believing in myself despite my surroundings. I feel that environment is very important. I know that I can't be satisfied, my ambitions are too great and I want to be successful. I feel that the experience is never going to be a good enough one at my current college. I don't know what else to do except to transfer to a top business college in New York and/or hopefully move out of my neighborhood if I can become successful. </p>
<p>I worked to become a better person and I feel I have done so as much as reasonable. I feel I have a good chance at being successful and escaping my environment. I don't mean to post this but I am pretty mad at my situation, but I am trying to make the best of it.</p>
<p>During the summer I worked very hard to better myself. I still need to get over my shyness as a priority though. I find it pretty hard to because I have to keep doing things I am uncomfortable doing and its unconvenient. But I will do it soon.</p>
<p>You got to go to a top private high school despite your situation, and you are going to college for free. Why exactly are you mad? If it bothers you so much, move away from home, get a FT job, and transfer. Take advantage of a free education, not everybody is fortunate enough to go to school for free. Not having loans is going to allow you to move out early. If you want to get out so bad, get a FT job and move out. I have a couple of friends who moved out and pay for everything themselves.</p>
<p>OP - You sound like an arsehole and a bigot, to be honest. You say you “dislike the asian mentality of being better than others and looking down”, but right before that you said your neighborhood has a lot of “poor low quality type of people who are immigrants.”
Some statistics: The unemployment rate of U.S. immigrants is nearly 20% lower compared to that of natural-born citizens; the “poor, low quality” Asians have a median income that is nearly 15% higher than that of the rest of the U.S.</p>
<p>Maybe if you got over the fact that the world doesn’t revolve around you, and actually go interact with your neighbors, you’ll get over your 19th century, Gilded Age mentality and actually like your neighborhood. That’s all I can say.</p>
<p>Her - South Asians tend to have much lower income than East Asians, likely on account of the IQ gap. Additionally, you cite national statistics yet baruch’s gripe is with the specific neighbourhood. I happen to live in a lower-income neighbourhood to avoid going into debt paying for college, and I dislike it too on account of the dilapidation and the vulgar nature of the people. Finally, your proposal presupposes that interaction with neighbours will produce a favourable impression; I would venture to guess otherwise given his observations.</p>
<p>Thus, I offered the advice to attend school elsewhere: it will get him out of both the neighbourhood and the school. If he were to apply to other colleges in upstate NY, he would still retain coveted in-state tuition, and likely save some money. Given the rampant crime in poorer neighbourhoods and NYC overall, it could well save his life.</p>
<p>This is true, a lot of immigrant chinese people are low quality people. They look it and they act it. They don’t have good morals and some do things that shouldn’t be done. A lot say they have nothing while they own a restaurant so they cheating the government and getting aid. These Asians pretty much care only about money and beating others. The reason they have a higher income is due to these reasons. There is one specific group of asians that are aggressive and ill mannered to a higher extent. Most american born asians only focus on academics or are gansters wannabes.
Asians have a certain mentality, the group I am taking about. They may have no money but they still think they are high class. I am not lying here. Asians are ok but usually not the type in a poor neighborhood in chinatown. For example, asians in a decent suburb. </p>
<p>Also you never want to associate yourself with such people if possible. I probably said some stuff I shouldn’t have said in my op, but you have to own up to your truth.</p>
<p>Your neighborhood situation is just a byproduct of first-generation immigrants clustering together and eventually forming a sort of ghetto. Sure, a lot of them are rude, don’t speak English, and “cheat the system”. But they are also marginalized, don’t have many options, and that might be all they know. And it’s not just a Chinese or Asian phenomenon.</p>
<p>I understand why you might be frustrated, but I don’t think it’s healthy to carry all of that loathing inside you. They really deserve your pity more than your hate. </p>
<p>I did the whole “live in Chinatown, attend a CUNY” for a semester, and it was pretty depressing. The reason for this is that I didn’t make more of an effort to reach out and socialize, and NY can be a lonely place. But I daresay your CUNY will have more than its share of like-minded people you can connect with. At the very least their ages will be closer to yours. Ultimately, college (and life) is really what you make of it. If a few more years there really feels insufferable, you can always try transferring.</p>
<p>Don’t get me wrong, I did meet my share of rude people in Chinatown. But on the day I was leaving I happened to sit next to a Chinese guy who told me how life really was. Married, 2 children, in his mid-20s, recent immigrant from Fuzhou. His English was really bad, but what could he do? He spent most of his waking hours in the kitchen of a small restaurant. His dream was to eventually open his own…</p>