At Choate, they don’t let freshmen leave campus the first weekend, to help them assimilate into the community. I had such pangs of guilt when my freshman told me she cried herself to sleep the first night. I envisioned all kinds of feelings of abandonment. But kids are resilient. Fast forward. Dear Student is attending college on the other coast and thriving. All they need are a couple good friends which will come in due time. Encourage her to stick it out saying anything worthwhile may be difficult in the beginning.