My daughter is not reading in college and comes back to her room at 3 am everyday please help

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Is there a chance i can ask her university to void this year completely and for her to join in september again?
Do good universities do that?
This is her first year. Also my relation with my mom is bad and i know she is doing this deliberately. Talking to my mom is a lost cause.

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I am 20 min away from her college and moved close to her. She has not come and stayed with us even one day.
This is tearing my heart.
If there is anything going on with her life , like a realtionship or something how do i het her to talk?
Can i ask her university to not take her first year into consideration at all? Can we do that?

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The college should have an academic dean she can talk to about her options at this point.

Does she have an older sibling who might be able to talk to her?

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You will not be able to get them to void last semester’s grades. Those are in the books. For this semester, you have to look into the withdrawal policies. Some colleges might allow a late withdrawal, which would void the grades. In some cases, if she happens to get a diagnosis (like for mental illness), she might be able to get a retroactive medical withdrawal, but this won’t work if she’s just failing classes for reasons within her control.

Some colleges will allow students to retake courses for replacement grades. If your daughter’s college allows this – let’s say she fails her classes but is still allowed back, maybe on probation – then she could retake the classes she failed this year, and the best grade she earns for those classes would stand. But you’d have to look into the university’s policies to see if they allow that.

Every college is different, however, so you need to look into this college’s policies. And if your daughter is over 18, that adds another layer of complication, because the administration will not be able to share information about grades without her permission. You wouldn’t even be able to request a withdrawal if such an option exists - she would have to do that. So you’d have to figure this out without knowing the specifics of her record.

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Would the OP, as a parent, be able to call the college and ask general questions about policies and deadlines, without her daughter’s permission?

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@wishwin Also, do you KNOW she is failing? Or is this just what your are assuming based on the report of your friend’s daughter?

Maybe she is doing just fine in her classes even with staying up late and not attending lectures. Some colleges don’t require attendance as part of the grade— as long as she does okay on her exams and any papers/homework.

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Closing thread.

Either two people are sharing an account or the student is posing as a parent. Both violate ToS.

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