I moved here, for college, into a house with “6 roommates.” It’s nearing the end of my “first” full day here and i just wanted to share and maybe get any opinions.I quote “6 roommates” because there are supposed to be 6 other students living here in the house, yet I have only seen 1.Last night, my first night, I tough the house was empty and I was the only one in the house. The next day I was told that, in fact, there where 3 in the house last night. It is really strange because all day yesterday and today, I have not heard one door open or footsteps. I dont even hear sound from computer usage or television.In addition, im beginning to regret choosing this place. There is a lot of room in my room bedroom and the house is a little dirty, but not too dirty.This i could handle. However, the kitchen and restroom are really dirty. I get disgusted when i enter them. For the most part ive been in my room, but i feel so left out . The silence in this house is literally driving me crazy. Tomorrow im going to the school and check out the gym, hit the gym , and try and meet some people. I know im not the only who is probably going through this. If you have a story to share, or especially if you are a transfer student also this fall, share.
Does sound strange that you haven’t seen or met the others. Perhaps once classes start you will see more. I am not sure how you work out the cleanliness issues without laying eyes on your roommates. Are you tied to a lease? Are there other housing options if this doesn’t work out?
It is night time again,and I still feel like im the only one in the house. Like yesterday, there is no lights from any of the rooms and no noise at all.I did sign a one year contract, but I am not in a lease; at least that is what I understood. I was told that i could move out early and if i did I needed to give at least a 30 days notice before moving out in order to get my deposit back.I think the one year contract is just for the price of the rent. I do have my suspicions. The only 2 people i met before i moved in seemed really nice. The house is just 3 minutes from the school, it is not in bad conditions at all, and the price is pretty fair including utilities.It is just the bathroom, kitchen, and the fact that is so quiet that bothers me. I had trouble looking for a place to begin with. Im going to give it a try for now.
Clean the kitchen and you’ll eventually meet everyone, cuz they’ll be miffed that you threw out their congealed guck.
My dd lives in a house with 7 people. Half are her friends, the other half come and go-sophomores to 1st year grad. They sometimes stay overnight at friends places. It’s not going to be a social living situation for you. You will eat and sleep there. That’s it.
DDs house has one meeting at the beginning of the semester, to discuss rules and chores and so that everyone sees who is actually living there. They do expenses online and have a kitchen whiteboard for notes about travel, appliance repairs etc.
You are not there to make friends. You are there to eat, sleep and study. Be happy that they’re quiet!
If the kitchen and bathroom are dirty, clean them. Are you expecting them to just magically clean themselves? Then once everyone moves in (or, I suppose, when you finally get the chance to meet everyone) set up a night when everyone is going to be home so that you can all meet each other and agree on simple living together things–make a cleaning/trash schedule, talk about house rules for noise/parties, discuss whether or not people want to share food/cooking utensils/pots/pans/etc, talk about how you’re going to split household costs like toilet paper and cleaning supplies, etc.
Instead of sitting around in your room all day, hang out in the living room or the dining room or somewhere out in the open. You’ll get to meet and see people as they come in and out. It’s also possible that you haven’t seen anyone because your schedules just don’t match up. There was one summer where I didn’t see one of my housemates all summer unless we made a point to do something together because she usually got home after I had already gone to bed and I had left for work before she woke up. Maybe they’ve been out and about doing other things. Do you know what year they are in? Many students who live off campus might be upperclassmen and may have friends/significant others that they are spending most of their time with.
Try to get more involved with camps activities. Do they have activities for the beginning of the school year? Clubs you can join? An on campus job you can get? Do more things that will get you out of your house and will let you spend more time with students. Also, you’ve only been there one day. Relax.