<p>I have this friend in college. But somehow, I feel like she is always stealing my spotlight. Whenever I am talking with someone, she would “invite” herself in and tried to take over the topic. Sometimes, when I am talking, she would also try to copy my words and then talk with others in the same words… and tried to steal the spotlight again.</p>
<p>I found it really annoying. I have been making an effort to socialize in college, but with her by my side, I feel I’m having a hard time leaving an impression on thers. She isn’t bad or something, it’s that she just want to be in the spotlight every time!!! It bothers me. What should I do? Should I adapt my conversational skills? Or try to hang out with someone else who are “less talkative”?</p>
<p>Actually, you can use it to your advantage. In general people who yak lot are insecure and shallow. You can stay quiet and interject yourself with some meaningful comments during the conversation. You will develop a reputation as being level headed and the person ‘who listens’. My wife is like that and people ‘talk’ to her. Even strangers would tell her their personal things.</p>
<p>I know exactly what the OP is talking about and she shouldn’t have to adjust herself to some insecure persons pushiness</p>
<p>this friend seems pretty self absorbed, and with not enough confidence in her own persona that she mimics the OP</p>
<p>my D had a “friend” like that in HS, down to the jewelry my D wore, and yes, my D had to seperate herself from this friend for a bit</p>
<p>Why should the OP change? If She shuts up then the intrusive friend “wins” and yes, it is a competition to the friend…</p>
<p>People will notice, but that doesn’t make it anyless annoying</p>
<p>My other D has a friend who wants to be the center of attention wherever they go, with guys they are talking to, teachers they run into, etc</p>
<p>So sometimes that friend isn’t included, because it gets tiring</p>
<p>I know what you meant by spotlight- its not that you want to be the center of attention, its just that when you are in a conversation, you don’t want someone butting in all the time, basically mimicing you</p>
<p>is this friend a new friend, does she have other friends besides you?</p>