<p>Warts: She told her about 2 weeks ago actually. Now, one would think that her mom would be shocked that her daughter came so close to death because of something she’s done (esp cuz she’s so protective) and be introspective to ensure that this never happened again. </p>
<p>What actually happened still surprises me. Her mom turned it around. Lisa started crying and LM continued telling her that “she just wanted to run away from her problems” and “take the easy way out” and that if she doesn’t learn how to deal with her issues, she will be screwed in life. Then she continued to tell her a ton of catholic nonsense about how she’d burn in hell if she succeeded or tries again.</p>
<p>Esth - Would the best way to do that be to go through the school? Because besides that, she is never really in a position to go anywhere without her mom’s permission. If so, how would one do something like that over the summer? Or would it be best to just wait it out?</p>
<p>But that is all true. Lisa is trying to run away from her problems rather than dealing with them. Her biggest issue is her mother and she needs to deal with it. (I know that is not how Lisa’s mother meant it).</p>
<p>Oh no, it’s definitely true. But that is not how you’d expect a mother to react to information like that…at least in my experience. Instead of comforting and helping, she went on the attack.</p>
<p>In your case, I would talk to Lisa. If it was me I’d definitely confront, but you’re not me. Talk to Lisa and be a supporter for her to stand up to her mother. Tell her to use resources to help cope. Be a firm supporter for her.</p>
<p>Okay I was more worried about this until you mentioned she was hispanic. As a fellow hispanic, I will say that more overprotectiveness is common, but even this is an exaggeration. Does LM have a husband? If she doesn’t (or used to), this probably explains why she’s influencing her children in such a way. Really, none of this will change until Lisa realizes what’s happening and communicates in a confident way to her mother about how she feels. You should tread carefully, though.</p>
<p>She has a husband…but he’s white. He’s a really chill guy. Maybe too chill…because he agrees with Lisa and I completely (that his wife is overprotective and controlling.) But he has tried to make her less crazy before and has essentially given up. He’s not really involved in any decisions regarding their children.</p>
<p>Yeah go through the school. If the school intervenes maybe a social worker will come. Or wait until she’s legal. Once she’s legal she can do whatever she wants.</p>
<p>perhaps you should try talking to their parish’s priest (since you say her family is super catholic). he can either help you, help her, or speak with your gf’s mom. regardless, he’s an intermediary that all parties should be able to trust and who is supposed to be good at helping with these sorts of situations.</p>